cybele

As odd as this sounds, I'm grateful that I'm not alone. When I was emailing that long distance friend and the convo delightfully turned, after a while, he said that he did not believe that women could carry on a "friends with benefits" relationship. He said in his experience, it's never been successful since the women always ended up becoming too emotionally attached. He told me that he figured I'd never be successful at it. Of course right before he wrote that, I had considered asking him to split airfare and come here, or to meet at some halfway point mid-US. lol. Yeah, that thought worked out well. As you pointed out, finding a suitable partner is easier said than done. Meanwhile, it's been an enjoyable ride lately... long overdue. And the best part, I'm still waiting to get my first toy in the mail!

I do have lost time to make up. Honestly though, it's like I was completely shut down. Isn't the brain a funny thing? Now, if I could find someone to share my newfound energy with hehe

Welcome. I'm new as well. These people here are very nice, very kind.

I don't think I'm addicted. Just really horny. I've recently been working out also, five-six days per week. Would this add to my predicament?

Well, I think I've gotten enough courage to ask this. For the last two years, I've been without a partner. Yeah, two years. Long story. Two months ago or so, I've been emailing a long distance friend and the convo turned decidedly a different way. That's since ended, but he kind of "woke" things up in me. At first I thought it was just the convo that was "waking things up" but now, since that ended, I'm still... Anyway, there are times that I masturbate four or five times per day. I know this may seem like an odd question, but is this normal? I've never been this affected before, even in my 20's.

I'm a newbie - heck I don't even know if I'm replying correctly or not. But your story sounds a lot like mine was for quite a few years. I was tired! I had three kids under four years old, and when I wasn't running around after them, I was at work. And it never failed, when I was just starting to doze off (out of sheer exhaustion) that's when he'd think it was the perfect time. Honestly, even though I loved oral, I couldn't get off... no matter how I concentrated. I'm not sure if you're dealing with a hectic life and all, but I think that maybe starting much earlier would help. I took some control at one point and started foreplay while he was watching TV, long before bedtime. I knew if I didn't start it early, and left it up to him, my sex life would be completely dead. It worked to a point, but I was tired of initiating all the time. It seemed like it was too much effort for him - sadly. But, give it a shot, maybe your husband will figure it out. Hope this helps... just my little two cents...

Thanks to you all for the nice welcome. I've been peeking around on the site a bit - the comfortableness in your discussions is wonderful, refreshing. Already I've learned some things - answers to questions I've had for years. I also can't believe that there was a thread about people finding your toys after you're gone. That was always a worry of mine (hence, no toys, ever) I figured my kids would be horrified (they're all adults) But the post "who cares, I'll be dead" put a whole new perspective on it for me. hehehe. Now, I'm looking forward to the mail this week... and won't be anxiously wondering if I should throw it away. I'll try to remember to not be embarrassed when I'm dead. Thanks again.

Thanks for the welcome Randy. From what I've seen searching around the site, this seems like a comfortable place to be for me.

Well, I am new to all this. Matter of fact, I've never even been in a chat room before. I just turned 49 and figured that I was missing out on a lot. It's taken me two years to get over being single again and I'm so ready to move on now. I figured that this would be a way to get re-introduced to a world that I haven't taken part in, in a long long time. Hoping that I will learn some new things, and have some fun along the way. Gotta say though, it's a little nerve wracking doing this for the first time.