Rob

We are having issues with the PM feature and it is not working right now. Hopefully it will be fixed soon. Sorry!

A patch is going up to fix this issue. It should be fixed in an hour or so.

Another note: If you currently have met the minimum post requirement to send PMs, you will need to make 1 more post to activate the PM feature on your account. Just wanted to give you a heads up on this.

Good morning folks! I just wanted to let everyone know that I am sorry for the spam messages that came from one of our members. As most of you know, members have the ability to communicate with one another using the private message feature. Although this is a great feature, we will have some people take advantage of it. To help fix the problem, you will now have to make a few posts to be able to send out PMs. I know this will be an inconvenience to some and I apologize about that. Please know we take this seriously and understand how important it is to keep the board spam free. Have a great day! Rob

Sorry for the long downtime. The problem has been fixed. **Thanks to everyone who let us know they were having issues accessing the site. We do get immeditate notification when any of our servers go down, but please feel free to let us know as it doesn't hurt!

You should see an improved performance with the forum. A few of you emailed (thank you!) alerting me of the issues. Please let me know if you experience any other performance issues. Rob

We love hearing requests like this. If it is something you like, it may be something others would like too! Rob

Thanks LL. Some of the products where hidden... I fixed that.

We have just announced our 7 days of steals. Each day, for the next 7 days, we are going to deeply discount 1 product. You must buy the product on that day to receive the deal. 7 Days of Deals Enjoy! Rob

Hi LostinKY, I briefy skimmed the post you made on the board. It sounds like you were getting some advice you were looking for. I am really sorry for all that you went thru. Many women don't have the strength to walk away. Maybe one day you will be able to help another woman get the strength to leave a violent relationship. What should you say? Start with what YOU are comfortable with. You might want to play a sex board game. This will help break the ice because it is the game making you answer the questions and talk about topics you might be a little reserved to bring up on your own. You are both young. You both have lots of growing to do. Your fiance is not open emotionally? This is very common in people. Unfortunately it is also the cause of people not being able to grown and mature as a human beings. He may need some help. Insecurity is the cause of so many problems and this most likely the issue here. Don't take this lightly. Don't accept, 'this is just who I am talk.' I doubt he would say this, but just in case! Good for you and him for opening yourselves up to become better people to one another. Good for you and please keep us updated!

LostinKY, First, congrats to you for recognizing some of your issues are due to a bad relationship. Moving forward starts with recognizing the root of our issues. You are not alone. Many women are in your same situation. Telling you the answer is simple. Working thru it will be a little challenging but if you keep working on it, you will get there! Confidence. You just need more of it. You need to be able to say and do without worrying about your fiance looking at you in a bad way. Here is just a few things to help you: 1. Talk to your fiance - You might not be ready to sit down at the kitchen table and have a talk, but you might want to slowly make small comments in his ear during your foreplay/sex. This will start to get you and him to open up to one another. Be mindful of his reaction when you make these comments. 2. Understand men. For the most part, we are easy to please. I am guessing he would very much welcome your desire to improve your sex life. Say your fiance was horrible, at let's say, oral sex. If he told you he loved doing it and wanted to get your advice on how he could do it better, how would you feel about him? I am guessing you would be less concerned about him not being good at it, but loving the fact he was eager to please! See my point? 3. Don't give up. Baby steps. As long as you are making small steps forward you are improving your sex life and gauranteeing these problems will soon be in your past! Best of luck to you and your fiance! Rob

Hi MK, You have a more substantial emotional attachment to this boy than you are willing to admit to yourself. If it was just about sex I don't think you would feel an urge to talk to him. I don't think you would think about him so much or be so dreamy about him. You might be telling yourself it is just about casual sex to protect yourself for falling for someone that may reject you. It is an artificial sense of protection. If he was into you, you would know. When we are rejected (this is a form of rejection) we all feel a deep need to know why. Why does he/she like me? We all want to be liked/loved. Just be aware of this need and don't let it over ride your common sense. You wanting to know why he doesn't call back, etc, is in a way, saying his opinion matters in how you feel about yourself. Your self worth has nothing to do with him. Props to Eminatic for making this point in another post! Ok... I will stop my speach! I can hear one of my sisters saying I am preaching again. IMHO, there is something here to really learn about yourself. In closing, see I am still talking, be aware of your feelings and dig deep with your questions when you evaluate what you are feeling and why. Best wishes to you! -Rob

There is so much wisdom in these 2 sentences. Thank you, Eminatic. K, I wish you the best. I can't imagine what you are going thru. Please keep us updated. Rob

Your wish is my command!

Thanks for all of the feedback. I am reading it all. I wanted to let you know I very much appreciated your comments.

I spoke to the winner yesterday. She was very excited. She is not part of the forum. She is from Long Island, NY. We will be running another one of these very soon! Rob

Hello Members, In light of some recent posts and PM's, I wanted to get some feedback from our members. Whether you have never posted and have over a 1,000 posts, I would love to hear from you. This forum was created to give people a chance to discuss adult issues in private. I understand most people are not comfortable talking about these subjects with their friends/family. This forum is meant to be a welcoming place for all adults seeking help and looking to genuinely help others. Not one member (or moderator) on this forum is above this standard. I would love to hear about your experience here on the board. Please send me a private message of your experience here on the forums. All info is kept confidential. Thank you so much! Rob

A new winner was selected. We are still waiting to hear back.

Hi Bella, Thanks for joining! We love seeing new people join the board! Rob

lol, thanks for all of the posts. Why is it so hard to give this prize away! It looks like we will be moving on to our next winner. Stay tuned...

I have had to move on the 2nd person. The first person never answered the email and did not have a phone number. I do not know if the person picked is on the forum.

We have just selected the winner of the $1,000 TooTimid shopping spree! As the rules state, this person has 7 days to get back in touch with us. If we do not hear from this person we will have to select another winner. Hint: It is someone from Florida.

Are you talking about your avatar? If so, click on the MY CONTROLS link found under the grey navigation bar at top. Once there, look on the left column for EDIT AVATAR link. Click it, and you can upload your own file there. Make sense?

I just made a 'few' edits. I am sure you all understand.

Hello! I am obviously out of the loop (and should be) to what is going on here. Let's try to keep this stuff off of the board. I would really appreciate it. Rob