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TPBM - Is having a good week?
Actually I am, thanks very much for asking!
TPBM is keeping a secret. Tell us!
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Welcome to the board Badger.
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Here's a pic my Wife took of me last week. What do you ladies think?
I'm liking the shaving too.
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Parts, true - parts, not so much.
TPBM is tried of dealing with something.
that's true. I am. Tired of dealing with thinking about my ex and how he fucked up the way I view the world and myself. I am tired of dealing with that.
TPBM is questioning their sanity at this moment.
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Don't panic!!!
Seriously, do you know how many men in their teenage years touch eachother just to do it? SOOOOOO many do. There are also so many men and women who have curiousity about same sex experience and it means NOTHING.
His answer about not kissing another man but letting him touch his penis should be comforting. Kissing is very intimate, more intimate that touching, so that says to me that he is just curious, not bi-sexual or gay.
well my best friend said later (while laughing) "men will let ANYONE touch their penis, won't they?"...not that that's true, but I think she was trying to comfort me.
Thanks for the response....
Actually the conversation STARTED because we were debating the straight/gay/bi status of a few guys we knew in high school. One of my friends had had threesomes (in highschool in the late 80's...man, I wasn't doing that! And somehow when we counted I'd slept with more people than she did! Because she didn't have sex with them all, she just made out a lot, but I digress...i was shocked either way, I thought her "number" was WAY higher than mine!) with these guys and remembers the men touching eachother A LOT. My other friend said it was experimentation, and the first friend said that you don't do that kind of thing and remain straight. THAT'S how she brought my boyfriend in to the discussion. She TOO thought he was the straightest guy ever and assumed that he'd support her theory.
Her point was one of those high school guys totally came out as gay, but we were debating what happened to the other one. Friend number one assumed that he also came out but friend number 2 said it could have just been experimentation.
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K, I don't know why this shocked me a bit, but my best friend (in conversation) asked my boyfriend if he'd ever had any same sex contact (she expected him to say no, knowing him) and he said "qualify contact!" at which point my friend changed the subject. She later said that she'd not wanted to embarrass him by qualifying it but we both agreed that he'd done SOMETHING if he needed it qualified. I admit, this shocked me a bit. I know, i know, i don't know why it did, but it was just so unexpected....my ex, yes...I can imagine but my current boyfriend? He always seemed SOOOO straight (I've asked him "how straight are you" type questions before and have got NOTHING like this). Oh and later when questioned (once again by my friend, not me, but I was right there) he said that he'd not KISS a man but he'd let him touch his penis.
K...seriously. Although in theory I find this hot, in reality it brings out some weird sort of fear in me. i can't explain it.
Help.
(no flames, just help)
I dont' think he's gay. I don't really even think he's bi. I think he's probably just had experiences and possibly fantasies (I read that a certain percentage of straight men fantasize about other men some of the time). Heck, I've had the same and consider myself straight. And funny enough, gay porn is a big turn on for me. So why can't this idea turn me on rather than scare the fuck out me?
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I went for "undecided". We did it for the...3rd or 4th time the other day. It was pretty hot, but really I have to be a little intoxicated still in order to do it. That might be a "bad thing" I don't know.
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14 D-dd. Thanx, were alot perkier b4 bub, and didnt have faded stretch marks
you can't even tell. Really.
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However, we have another curse: insecurity. Many of us ladies suffer from "Am I good enough for him?" And the "I should be enough for him, right?" We have this almost insatiable urge to please everyone around us, including our men. This is a good and a bad thing, IMO.
Which brings me to my question: Are you jealous of his porn collection? Do you feel that, YOU should be enough, and he shouldn't NEED to watch those films (or read those magazines)? Do you feel like your spouse?SO is cheating on you with porn?
What is the worst part? Is your spouse/SO aware of your feelings? What has he said to try and make you feel better/more secure about it?
Do you think it's normal for you to feel this way? Do you think it's abnormal for men to watch porn?
I'd love to hear your thoughts (or, in this case, read them).
WHEW! This is a huge one for me. I told my boyfriend the other day that I wanted to be EVERYTHING to him and he said that I should stop trying because it was impossible. True, I know, but it makes me sad.
Luckily my man doesn't have a huge collection, but he does watch the dvd's he has with some frequency. How often I don't know (I purposely try to not keep track) but I do know that whenever I see "anal babes" in the dvd player I feel a flicker of deep sadness which I have to push away. I feel like I couldn't BE more sexual with him and sometimes I don't understand why he NEEDS porn. We have very frequent sex and yet he still uses it. Hm...at least we have frequent sex...with my ex he was like the poster a few up..he replaced our sex life with porn.
I don't know if it's abnormal for men to watch porn. I think if it's available they'll watch it. So maybe that makes it normal...
My BF is aware of my feelings to a SMALL extent but not entirely as I've chosen not to restrict him in this way. I mean, i'm not going to tell him I can't watch it. He knows that I don't really like watching it these days (I've gone through phases and I'm off it now) because I just can't help comparing myself to those perfect plastic women that are on the porn that is on tv on friday nights (when we'd watch it). He says that I shouldn't compare myself but it's sooo hard.
Good news is the dvd he has (anal babes or some thing like that, lol) has REAL women, which is something I think is great!
Do I feel he's cheating on me with porn? A bit, I guess. I mean, it's not interactive and that's good...but something about it still makes me sad. Maybe I just need to change my frame of mind. Knowing that I want to BE everything to him and SEEING that I am not makes me sad..but if I dont' try to be everything...well that'd be easier to deal with I guess.
My problem is I don't know how to change my attitude.
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Okay, this is how I see it (and having not been there):
Grandma was present, you were absent, he was texting, he quits to spend time more exclusively with you upon your return? Later on, you check out his phone. You discover Barb was relaying her personal horrific experience with partner swapping with other friends. You read, "If you love Amber, don't do it." This, to me, seems as if Barb was more advocating his love for you than anything else. By following through with her advice to "not do it," he may have taken this to mean that it's such an absolute horrible, very bad idea that it's not even worth mentioning the idea to you. Why? Because, according to that text, he loves you.
Now, according to the appropriateness of their conversation, that would deal directly with the level of comfort all of you guys share with each other. If anything sexual is often discussed amongst y'all, then I don't see the big deal. If this whole ordeal has completely screwed everything up in her life with her friends where's she at and she just needed a third party to confide in, I can understand--especially since they have been friends for so long. If this has always been a white-laced, very prim and proper type of nature for the relationship which suddenly got covered with scarlet red due to the nature of the discussion, THEN you may be rightfully worried.
For example, my best friend/cousin's fiance will answer the phone with "Hey, sexy/sugar momma/etc." when he knows it's me...and right IN FRONT OF HER!!! Why? Because I'm the only chick he can get by with hitting on, and HE KNOWS THAT. She, then, of course, also knows it's me on the phone and tries to take it from him. Why? Because I'm always calling to talk to HER anyway! hahaha. She laughs, he laughs, I laugh. It's all good. Now, if he were to behave that way with ANYBODY ELSE, he'd be castraited in a heartbeat.
The question, my dear, what kind of line do you guys walk with her and how far did he actually get off of it? With Grandma around, yeah, he probably shouldn't have brought it up then. Being a guy and HUMAN, the conversation may have escaped his mind later that night. And by loving you enough to "not do it"--introducing extra partners into your relationship--he may have figured that it would be best to just not be brought up because you are, after all, worth keeping around. He'd be blind and stupid to not see that.
So, relax, take a bath, breathe, re-evaluate with a CLEAR head, breathe some more, and then act in whatever way you see fitting. And remember, we all have crazy things going on in our heads.
Just be careful to not over-react, but don't UNDER-react either!
Best wishes to you!!!
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i have NO idea how their relationship is really. I know her, but not well. I am very open about talking about sex stuff with my friends, so I guess I am not totally shocked that she was talking to him about this stuff. Plus they are all on the younger side (23-26) and I think that that generation was brought up to be pretty open about talking about sex...right? Either way, I don't know if I want to take on the "you can't talk to your friends the way you want to or the way they want to talk to you" thing. I'm going to let that one go (since she was telling him about some thing in HER life, NOT TALKING SEXUALLY TO HIM if that makes sense, I'd freak if it was TO him) and trust him on that one.
and yes, i think he probably forgot to tell me later or knowing him he just figured it had nothing to do with me and not being a gossipy girl type (like me, I tell him EVERYTHING about some of my friends) he logically thought "why would I tell her". (I did discuss that factor with him and told him if he'd told me I'd have KNOWN why he was texting with her and would have never checked his phone.
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well that's what I said. If he could have TOLD me about the texts with Barb I'd not have been hit with red flags. But his answer is that he'd JUST found out about it THAT DAY (that Barb had been partner switching with his other couple friends) and he'd not had time to tell me (my grandma WAS there the whole time). I wonder whether he would of anyways (he generally is less talkative and doesn't tell me EVERYTHING whereas he knows EVERYTHING about what's happening in the relationship of MY girlfriends!). I did tell him that.
I'm not sure that he was fantasizing about actually DOING it, I think he meant that he THINKS about it...like in fantasy...I mean my EX-H told me (when we had broken up or were breaking up actually) that he'd fantasized about "ALL of my friends". Not that that is ok, but that's what he said. So maybe men just DO THIS!
Thinking about stuff like this is enough to make me want to be a lesbian, I tell ya. But in reality, I don't really want to do that either. LOL. It's just that I don't understand men.
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just as i was thinking of letting this go...ulgh.
The chick is an old friend of his. He has a bunch of friends who live 3 hrs away in his home town. She's one of them.
Well DONT' all men fantasize about fucking other women? If it's just fantasy, it's ok...right? As long as it doesn't stray to DOING IT.
I mean, I've been having NEAR DAILY fantasies lately about fucking my BF, Sidney Crosby and another rock star guy (yes all at once, they all LOOK similar and I think that's hot, LOL) for the past few weeks. So how is that any different from his fantasies?
He wasn't really HIDING the text from me, it's just when I came in the room he didn't KEEP texting. He stopped and lowered his phone.
I asked him WHY he'd not told me what was going on with BARB because if I knew I'd not have been suspicious. He said he just found out that day and when was he supposed to tell me? with my grandma standing right there? (she was). Hmmmm...
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Hey, just to clarify I DON'T accuse men of cheating before they have, GENERALLY. I just mean in the past that is what they did, and then I'd find out about it. I don't do this to my boyfriend (Or I don't think I have...) but I guess in a way I did last night.
And as for the fantasy thing, I ONLY told him that I fantasized about other men AFTER he essentially told me that he thought about other women. I said it as a "it's ok that you do it, because I do it too" type of thing. I wasn't trying to rub his face in it, i just wanted him to know that he wasn't ALL I think of, considering he'd just told me that I wasn't all HE thought of. That may sound vindictive, it didn't come out that way.
Ok, so I just need to CHILL. Ok. Ok. That's IS really want I want to hear and want to do.
I know, it's the low self esteem part of me that wants to be everything to him. I know it's unreasonable, i do. I even said that to him last night.
I know, the fact that he's talking about parenting "issues" that we may have 10 years from now does not say to me that he's on the the way out. I know. I'm just scared. I learned (through leaving my marriage) that nothing lasts forever and so I guess part of me is just WAITING for this to end. I DO NOT "LIVE" that feeling nor do I 'SAY' it out loud (YOU GUYS are the first people to hear me say that) but I guess that's my deep down fear.
Ok, crucify me. I probably deserve it because I sound like a nutcase. I'm aware.
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K,admit-ably I'm a jealous person but I see it as watching out for myself since I've had a LOT of men cheat on me.
So last night my boyfriend was sitting there with his cell phone and when I came in the room he sort of put it away and something in his body language put up red flags for me. Why didn't he want me to see what he was texting? So I casually asked "who are you texting?"...he responds with a female name that I know, an old friend of his. Let's call her Barb. I said ok, and went out for the night.
When I came home later that night, we spent some time together, had sex etc and he went to bed. I wasn't tired so I got up to call my mom. Welllll she wasn't home and his cell phone was RIGHT THERE...and as much as I know it's WRONG I picked it up and read a bunch of the texts that this Barb had written him. (he'd deleted his sent mail)
Seems that Barb had partner switched with another couple (other close friends, I've met them too) and she was telling my boyfriend about it and how it was causing all of these problems now.
Then I read this one..."If you love Amber, don't do it".
My hands started to shake. Don't do what? What is he considering doing? Oh fuck.
I RAN upstairs and got him out of bed. I couldn't help it. I told him that I'd snooped (and apologized) and asked him what he was planning on doing....
He was angry about me snooping (understandably) and explained that he was REALLY thinking of doing anything, just that when she'd said that they'd partner swapped he said some thing like "that's cool, or that's hot or love to try that" or some thing and she responded with "If you love Amber, don't do it". (because her relationship is in a mess).
Ok, reasonable explanation....and yet I'm still upset. Upset because I realized I'd cut him off and finished his sentence and now I'm hoping that I didn't give him an excuse (he paused at the part when he was telling me how he responded to barb's story, he said "and I said to her...I don't know...that's..." and I inserted "cool or hot or i'd like to try that".). I told him that I was worried that I'd done that and he insisted that was the jist of what he'd said and he said that YES he would like to do that kind of thing but he KNOWS that I'm not into it so that's why he's never said anything.
He got into explaining that with men, sometimes there is someone you LOVE (me) and someone you want to FUCK (other women)...he knows he can ALSO FUCK me but it doesn't mean he doesn't fantasize about other women. He said that I have to trust him or we can't be together (I agree).
I told him that I fantasize about other men too and I know fantasy is normal. I asked him how he felt about that and he said he doesn't care.
I told him that I feel sad on one hand though because although I know fantasy is normal, i want to be EVERYTHING for him and I STRIVE to do that. I try to always look nice for him, I dress sexy, I am always there for him in the bedroom...SO many things. My ex lost interest in me, so i work hard to ensure that HE is less likely to. He said that it's IMPOSSIBLE for me to be everything for him. He says it's an an unattainable goal. Him fantasizing about other woman has NOTHING TO DO WITH ME or how I look or act.
Really, i don't care if he thinks about other woman. I think that's normal. I guess I just don't FULLY trust him considering how we got together (he had a girlfriend, I was still married)...I told him that. We've discussed this many times, how this was our first time doing this (he insisted he'd never cheated on a girlfriend before)...anyways, so with my history of men cheating, plus how we got together, plus I know he has a high sex drive. I worry.
I go off the deep end worry about stuff I tell you. I lay there last night and HE couldn't sleep because he could FEEL me worrying. Seriously. I was just laying there, but the worry was THICK in the silent air. He commented on it a few times. I finally took a sleeping pill.
When I think about this, it's really all about nothing. IF I know everything. IF he's not hiding anything. Then it's really about his friends situation and an off the comment statement he made about liking to try that (which is a feeling a LOT of men have I'm sure).
I mean, earlier in the night he'd looked after my sick 7 year old while I went out with my 5 year old to an event (meaning he does mundane parenting things for me) and later we'd had a discussion about how we may need to do "tough love" on my daughter when she gets older (in 10 years) and how he plans on making sure she is respectful and he's not going to let her walk all over us (she is a strong girl already at 5). So my point in saying this is he's often talking about things that we'll do in 10 years etc, so he's seemingly not planning on GOING anywhere...but still, I worry....
He can't understand why I worry so much. It's because I essentially left my ENTIRE LIFE for this man. I left my husband and left living with my kids full time (now I have 50/50). He said "you wouldn't have left anyways?" and I said that I probably would have ended up leaving IN TIME but not when I did. He sort of sped things up a bit I think...but had he not been around it probably would have taken me longer. So as shitty as that is for my ex and my kids, that's the hard core truth. So that's why this whole thing makes me that much more scared. It tears me up inside worrying that I left my family for nothing. I know I'm going off the deep end right now because according to him he hasn't even DONE anything....
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Together for 30 years, married for 28
. I'm still as hot for her now as when I first met her . She was 16 and I was 18 when we met. She is the love of my life and I can't think of being with someone else.K, silly question for the LONG MARRIED folks...and let me preface this with I DO NOT SEE THIS BEING AN ISSUE on my end, but those of you who know my shallow ex, this is why I ask this question...how do you deal with your partner getting OLDER in a world of ever-present young hot men/women (I guess I'm mainly talking to the men here) that you see everywhere...how do you remain attracted to your partner?
I KNOW that probably sounds silly, however once again, I'm thinking about my ex and how he obviously would not be ok with me aging if he wanted to change my body through surgery at age 32. My current boyfriend (who is 10 years younger than I am) does not seem so shallow so I hope I don't run into these issues, however my ex situation sort of "sets me up to worry" if that makes sense.
I know I for one will definitely always think he's hot. I know that because I know my personality....
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Your ex sounds like he's a great guy, to his kids. However, again, let me restress that, if he wanted you to change your physical appearance in such a drastic way, and made you feel bad about yourself, then he really is not a great person towards YOU. Yes, he's going to treat you nicer infront of other people, and that's what your friend has seen.
What your friend needs to really GRASP is that, he's your EX for a REASON. For whatever reason, things just didn't work out. She needs to drop it and move on, hopeless romantic or not. I mean, how DISRESPECTFUL is it of her to do that, with you having another man in your life now. Imagine how that makes your BF feel?
Just because you get along with your Ex doesn't mean that you should get back together. In fact, it's wonderful that you get along, if only for the sake of the kids you have together. So, she needs to drop it, or leave you alone. I hope her latest e-mail to you was sincere & truthful.
As far as men being programmed, yes, that absolutely could be true. However, if any man uses it as an excuse, he's just shallow. I mean, yes, they see these images, and are influenced by them (as us women are too), however, men need to understand that they can choose to follow that mindset, or be a bit more free-thinking, and feel comfortable enough to like what they like, and say to hell with what others may think!
I can't believe she said all of those things with my boyfriend in the same house either and I thought exactly the same thing HOW DISRESPECTFUL! And she had NO IDEA. I swear.
Interesting comment on the programming....well my mom always DID SAY he was shallow...
Sidebar: Once I got a christmas card from a friend of mine (whom the ex had never met) and pictured on the front was her entire family, 3 small children under 8 and herself and her husband. I showed him happily and said "this is my friend Barb that i always mention" and he looked at the pic and said laughingly "wow, what an UGLY family, the whole family is unattractive". NICE eh?
SO I GUESS the fact that he was critical about me should be no surprise...
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I think you ex as a point with the "programing" idea. Look at all the mag. ads, tv shows, movies, beauty contests, porn, etc. that show beautiful women that men have been viewing all their lives. But you know what, when you fall in love with someone, you fall in love with the whole package, not just the physical attributes, imho.
When I asked my wife to marry me, it was because of the way she can make me laugh when I'm down; the way she cared for me when I was sick; the interests that we shared, etc. I didn't marry her for her 34-something breasts, to me that was a bonus! I would never ask her to change anything about her body! I love the sum of all of her parts!
Again, just my opinion
funny enough I know he THINKS he married me for those wonderful reasons too, however during our marriage (after I had kids) he started to feel like he didn't like my breasts as much. He said (in an EMAIL TO HIS FAMILY) that this was an AGE OLD THING MEN DEAL WITH...inferring that so many men go through this, and I guess many do...but in my opinion I like my boobs BETTER after babies, but he liked them better before.
But ya, I see his point a bit...about the programming...and I think it's sad...it's too bad it really effected him though, because obviously so many people can still be attracted to their partners although they don't look like early 20's porn stars.
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Di and I have been married for 33 years and have been together for 35 and she still turns me on everytime I see her or hear her voice. The sex is hotter than ever and gets better everyday. How does it last this long? Well we talk to one another and have the greatest respect for one another, and have great sex to keep things spiced up. Life is a lot more fun when you have someone special to enjoy it with and Di is my someone special and I work hard to be her's.
awh, aren't you cute! I love that!!!!
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...after a few years are STILL SOOOO attracted to your partner? How long have you been together?
I've been with my boyfriend for not quite 3 years and I am still so insanely attracted to him. I know this tends to go away ("they say") however I'm hoping it won't, and am looking for ways to keep it alive.
So far the things I DO for him is shave, lots of bj's and generally treat him very nicely. (there are many more things but I think those are important to him so I'm just listing the select few).
For me, he occasionally shaves (which I like, only since him, never had anyone else do it), cooks me lots of yummy, healthy meals and gives me "boob orgasms" whenever I'd like (something we came up with, I never had them with anyone else).
What do you do?
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welcome to the board.
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I have my own opinion here, but i'm curious to what you all think...Plus I'd like you to debate the validity of his arguement...ARE men programmed so that they only are accepting of unrealistically shaped women? Is it the media's fault and not men's?
So that friend of mine that keeps upsetting me sent me an email the other night telling me about how she saw the ex at a sporting event (our kids go together) and how she likes him more and more the more that she see's him and how great he is with the kids (true)...then she said that she had a thought of "playing cupid" with us but then stopped herself.
I wrote her back and said a few things, but basically said "please respect my decision"...
Well after the short email I sent her back (I think she "got" my message) she wrote back again today. I think at least by reading it that I now know that the ex takes some responsibility? What do you guys? Well in a way....I mean he infers that it's not his fault because he's "programmed" however even him realizing THAT is something, don't you think? (K, even after typing this out I've done some deeper thinking on this so I'll reserve what i think for later, i'm curious what the general feel from you guys is...)
K, here's her second email back to me (after I shortly said "respect my decision and not too much else)...(I CHANGED HIS NAME TO 'THE EX' where she put his name, fyi).
Sorry about the match-making fantasy. I completely understand. I want to clarify, your ex is not for me either just cause I said I like him more and more, I meant I like him for you. BUT, he's not right for you, I got it now for good , I understand and I will not push this any farther. I just like the way I've seen him treat you and your/his kids. You know me, I'm a hopeless romantic. My marriage could never work, so I want other people's to have a shot. I meant no harm or disrespect - pls. accept that. I guess I didn't spend enough time getting to know your boyfriend.
I will make more of an effort to get to know him K!
So I was reading a magazine at ballet last class and there was this ridiculous photo of this model riding a bike in the sexiest undies with her perfect touche hanging out and I said, "Yeah, we all ride bikes like that." And THE EX looked at my mag and said, "see that's why men are all screwed up, cause we're programmed from a young age with these unrealistic images of women." Then he says in this regretful tone, "I wish I could reprogram myself - it just ruins things" OK, I thought instantly of you and I think he meant me to tell you his feelings? Maybe not, but my gut says yes, it was definitely a message for you. Oh yeah, he was also telling me how hard having two kids by himself was for him, I just kept thinking he was trying to get me to deliver all these comments to you or talking to you through me??
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Manipulation is a form of abuse, just not one that leaves visible wounds each time it is done.
it's just harder to see. Although I did SEE it, it was very confusing because he was also VERY loving in so many ways. So I couldn't (and often still can't) jive the guy that wanted me to cut myself up because he didn't like my shape to the guy who told me that he loved me so much he wanted to crawl inside my body and curl up.
That very paragraph there makes me very sad.
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I wanted to answer this before I read any other answers.
First, let me say that it's GREAT that you stood up for yourself and refused to get a boob job, just because your ex wanted you too. He got together with you when you had little boobs, and if it bothered him so much, he shouldn't have. No woman should have to change herself like that for a MAN. Cosmetic surgery should be for medical reasons, or to make yourself feel better. It's something that should be done for YOU, not what your BF/GF wants you to do, even if they would be willing to pay for it!!!!!
If the relationship didn't work out between you and your ex because of a simple thing as boobs, then, darlin', it wasn't much of a relationship to begin with. Strong sex is great, but, if you don't have mutual attraction, trust, and respect, well, there's not much point to it, is there? If he picked apart your body, and you got a boob job, he'd probably target some other body part to make you feel bad about, and that, my dear, is just plain shallow! If he knows what sort of body type he's attracted too, then he should find it already made. He shouldn't have to have it created to suit HIS needs/desires. After all, if you got a boob job, and went back to him, wouldn't you always wonder if it was YOU or your BOOBS he was with? And yes, there would be a difference!
It's extremely hard to raise a child in a split home. There are very few people that wish that upon their kids, however, being miserable, insulted, and degraded with the other parent JUST so you can say you're with the "father of your child" isn't a healthy way to bring a child up. And, trust me, eventually, it would be known as to what the issues were, and so on. Do you want your child to learn that it's ok to stay with someone that degrades you, and wants you to change your appearance in such a drastic way?
She may have seen you "click" with your ex better because there's a history there. Hell, some people say that a friend of mine, whom I've known for 14 yrs and I have a more "comfortable" relationship than me and my husband. Does that mean I want to be with my friend (who's a guy)? No, it just means that I've known my friend a lot longer. Your live-in BF is relatively "new", and so there's a low level of comfort, though it will grow.
I'm not trying to insult your new friend, however, I would be wary of how much you open up to her. If she's changing her body to keep a man, that's HER choice to make. If she's truly comfortable with doing so (though I doubt she is), great. However, TRUE friends wouldn't encourage you to do ANYTHING that they know you feel strongly against doing. They would want YOU to be happy in ways that will make YOU happy. It sounds, to me, like she's just looking for another woman to share her surgeries & experiences with.
thanks tyger, excellent response...you are so right...
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LOL! "Slimeball" does seem a little judgmental, even if you didn't mean it to be that way.
I married her because she was bright, witty, funny, and at 150 pounds she was attractive. Two years of 2 bottles of wine a night , an added sixty pounds or so, and a pack-a-day smoking habit and she wasn't so attractive anymore. Also, she could get mean when she was drunk, and she was drunk every night. I felt sorry for her because I think we all need to feel loved and wanted, but her habits had totally taken control of her. I'll always love her in a way, but after two years of abusing herself and watching it get worse all the time I could not make myself feel attracted to her. We finally agreed to split. I think she quit drinking and got her act together and I married the love of my life, so it worked out.
ok, just read THIS part of your post (secondary post) and this doesn't apply to me at all.
But the initial post did.
. I'm still as hot for her now as when I first met her 
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thanks.
A person that has watched too much porn and doesn't know what real boobs look like anymore. That kind of person could say something bad.
