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The worst is a former boss. He was very sweet and all but he has the littlest penis I have ever experienced! I mean, seriously, I could not really even feel him when we were having intercourse he was so small. Right before he would cum, I would feel it some, but not enough to get me off. And the worst part, intercourse was really all he did, so needless to say, we had sex very few times.
I had the same experience except I LIKED this guy so much that I did have sex with him a lot. But it was so teeny weeny it really didn't do much for me. But even granted that, I was generally so attracted to him that it didn't matter. I dated him the first time for a year and then pined for him after he broke up with me
for another 2 years and then we got back together as "friends with benefits" a few years later...but ya, it was small. i think there is a term for that...micro penis. looking at the pics in the wiki, my man was thinner than the guy pictured, but maybe a TAD longer...still micro... -
hmmm...that's tough...when i was 16 I was dating this guy who (also 16) couldn't keep it up. It was always rubbery. What was THAT about? (nerves?) As an adult I may have understood more, but as a teen? I thought teens were always rock hard...
Um....then there's my ex who didn't like to kiss me, touch my breasts or go down on me (he had reasons for each, as to why each wasn't pleasant for him) and that was pretty bad. He was good at the actual pumping (gotta give credit where it's due) but as for the rest..pass...
In high school (and early 20's) I had a lot of just "plain old pumping" sex. I put that down to young men who didn't know any better? Granted my best friend (i only found this out recently as we're still best friends) was getting ANAL and all sorts of sex in HS, whereas I was just getting the "pump and comes". Female pleasure didn't exist back in HS sadly. Even sadder was I didn't know that was WRONG.
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How cool is that!?
IS THAT real?
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.Just remember only you know what's best
I know, but this is a puzzle that I go around and around in my head trying to grasp and I never can quite understand it. Which is why I ask for advice. It may make me seem unconfident, however it's really just confusion and requests for insight.
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Doesn't matter what anybody else thinks. You need to decide what is right for you. Stop listening to everyone else. Take 2 week, no BF, no interaction with ex, and no other opinions from anyone (sorry AD) and think about what it is you really want. Don't ask any one for there opinions during that time. Just you and your own thoughts.
Thats what I think.
I'm not listening to what you thinkg! LOL.
Just joking.
I hear ya though. I hear ya.
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NO NO NO NO NO, NO boob jobs period. Iv'e never seen your tits nor do I have too. A real man wants you just the way you are !!!!
thanks...
Funny enough my boyfriend told me to tell HER to get fake ones if she's telling me too. I said "she already has them" and he was surprised because he'd glanced at them (she was at my house with no bra on and headlight nipples I don't blame him for looking) and didn't think they were anything great.
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Having been married and having children together there will always be a connection between you two. Do you still love him? Enough to want to spend your life with him? I know it's never black and white. Just make sure that you go with what makes you happy!
Do I still love him?
I don't think so.
I love what we had. I long for that. I wish it didn't have to go away.
Do I want to spend my life with him? I feel I can't go back. How could I do that? I'd have to get the boobs. I dont' want to kiss him though. I don't want to lay next to him. I dont' want to sleep with him. I want to sleep with ryan. I want to kiss ryan.
You're right though, it really isn't black and white.
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Sounds to me like your friend doesn't know shit.
But she sure acts like she knows all! LOL.
Anathema Device and I are friends in real life and I trust opinon her more than this "new" friend. And she has met my current man PLUS my ex....but not this new friend.
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Do NOT let that woman make you second guess what you have come to know is right for you. If it was just about the boobs it would have never gotten as far as a divorce. You've told us how cold hearted and shallow your ex was to you....Any man who would throw you away because you didn't have the "porn star" bod his pathetic little ego thinks he deserves is basically a weasly piece of shit who will never be happy or satisfied with anyone because the problem resides in HIM not in his partner! You deserve better than that and don't you forget it! If she's such an expert on reading relationship vibes why does she have an EX? Don't let anyone confuse you and cause you any grief. Be happy!
Well, HER ex is a psychopath. I'm sure of it. So my ex looks like a DREAM DADDY to her, I'm sure, and thus a dream husband.
My ex was weird. He wasn't COLD, he was very warm actually. But manipulative. He'd try to make me think that the surgery ideas were MY idea (didn't work AT ALL). First he wanted me to get an uplift "for my own self esteem" which really pissed me off because I was still NURSING our 2nd child. HERE I was nursing and he's criticizing the boobs that are giving our daughter sustenance? I dont' know why that made me so mad, but it did.
When he went for the implants idea, he didn't try to make it seem like it was for my self esteem at all. i MADE him come clean and he admitted that it was all his idea (both ideas) and that he was trying to get me to do it for him.
Anyways, the hard part for me was that he was generally a warm loving guy. And to pull this shit was very confusing. Still is.
Thanks for answering.
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I just had a friend over tonight (she's a new friend, we've only known eachother 6 months however we've told a lot of secrets in those 6 months if that makes sense...she's not a "casual" friend) and she was here when my kids dad dropped off my son as he had him for a few hours. Anyways, she watched the "interaction" between the two of us and said he is "totally still into me". I don't know HOW she saw that, but she said she did.
Then she met live-in boyfriend. And she said that she thought I 'click' with my ex better.
I told her my ex ISN'T ATTRACTED to me. I explained our love life and how he picked my body apart and also how he told me flat out "I do not like your boobs" and asked me to get fake boobs. We spent 3 hrs talking and he tried to convince me to get them.
Anyways, SHE thinks I should get them and go back to him.
This seems crazy to me.
I mean, the ex and I did have a great friendship. But it REALLY bothers me that he wanted to me alter his body for him.
She thinks it's cosmetic and if I can do this for him then I should.
This woman has fake boobs, if that matters. She got them because her exhusband wanted her to. she said that he ex didn't love her, he just wanted her to get fake boobs, whereas in the 10 minutes she saw the ex and I together she could tell he loves me, he just wants big boobs. Big deal, get the boobs, she said.
I was SO upset. AFTER she left I had a hard time keeping it together. But I managed, until a few minutes ago...
I just bawled my eyes out and told my boyfriend. Which probably wasn't a good move (he says he doesn't care what she thinks, but I can't imagine someone saying that your girlfriend should get surgery and go back to her ex would feel NICE)...anyways, he says she doesn't know anything about us and this woman has caused nothing but trouble (not entirely true, but I have come home in tears before after being with her, because she tells me to go back to the ex..she told me that last time I was out with her too) and it's just hurtful. Plus her daughter is WILD and truly NOT a good influence on mine...
I think the reason that I cry when people tell me to go back to the ex is because of many reasons. I loved him. I loved our life. I feel sad that my kids are now being raised in a split home. I still can't comprehend WHY i wasn't enough for him THE WAY I AM and even that makes me sad. I am sitting here bawling right now. I wonder if I should have tried harder, however I DID try VERY hard and the only thing I didn't do was get the boobs. Well, that and therapy. I wish I had done that WHEN WE WERE MORE SOLID vs when we were breaking up. It was too late then.
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K, my love for DADT continues.
I read not only sex in that, but big huge love and that's what I really liked. Seriously.
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Tyger - great points! The "country lines" thing is totally fine. In fact, his ex knows that this is the long term plan and has no problems with it. It's even written into their custody agreement that either of them can leave the state/country and the actual custody agreement is written out so it accounts for that.
I agree with you about the talk with his boss. In fact, I said that very thing to him a couple months ago, that I didn't think he was being taken seriously because he's off-handedly talk about moving to Canada for so long. He sat down and had a talk with him and explained how important it is to him (at my suggestion). His boss was sympathetic (I've been to his house and met him on several occasions, so that likely helped), but unfortunately my SO didn't know that his boss had just come out of a meeting where they decided on lay offs (which were announced the next week). So...timing was horrible. And that's essentially what his boss says - that he can't go to bat for him with the VP when they're in the middle of layoffs. Fair enough. Hopefully things will stabilize soon.
I still am "clingy", but it's definitely morphed because of the nature of our relationship. I take our phone "dates" very seriously, and he understands that, so he is really good about keeping me in the loop if he'll be late. It's taken some change on my part and his, and largely, we succeed.
Thanks for the post - some good advice there.
oh AD that is the WORST timing, I can't believe that! Brutal...
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I think three years of a LDR is incredible, and I could never do it. I tried one once, lasted a couple of months. I need to be near the person I love, very near. So, I commend you on making it work. I do not think you are wrong though in wanting him to move to you. You have given valid reason why he should be the one to move. And call me crazy, but I am sooooo tired of hearing how the economy is the blame for everything. True, it might make things harder, but there are jobs out there. They may not be the ones we want, but they are there. Unless he has a large number of bills that would make it impossible for him to do so, maybe he could look at taking a lower-paying job than he has now just to get there to you. I just do not think it is unreasonable to ask this.
My SO quit his job to move in with me. He had few bills besides his child support and we decided that I could pay what expenses he had for a few weeks until he could find a job. Within a few days he had options. Within two weeks he was working. Yes, he is working with a relative of mine, but it was a position that had been open for weeks and that she had tried to fill and couldn't because it is a tough job and involves working nights. He could have gotten the job without knowing someone at the company, so it should not be thought that is the only reason he got it. Is it perfect? No. We are going to be married in a few months and he is working nights. I would rather have him home at night, I would love for him to make twice the money he is and not have to work so hard, but we are making sacrifices for the relationship, making individual sacrifices for us.
I can't tell you what to do. I do know that ultimatums tend to be a bad idea, but if the only thing keeping him from moving truly is a job, then it should not take forever for it to happen. Of course, this is just my humble opinion and may differ from what everyone else has to say.
Well this isn't really an option for AD because she lives in canada and he's a usa citizen. He needs to have a job in order to stay in canada....
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I thought of this more and seriously I just can't imagine you leaving him. I know you did that BEFORE (sort of, for other reasons) and you were CRUSHED. I don't see this as being an option...
Oh hon, I just dont' know....k, going to read the other responses...
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Anyways, I'm not DOING anything about it (I also have a post about how HOT I find my boyfriend you may have read, LOL) so the point of this post was more of a question in regards to if OTHER people have these fantasies and am I normal type thing!
ya, i think this is me. I don't think I'd actually want to do anything. I don't think that is ME if that makes any sense. It's just fantasy. I've actually discussed this with my best friend recently (she's bi) because she's curious how far I'd take it. Turns out, not as far as she thought I would (she was making suggestions like "you'd do this, but not this" and I was like "no, I'd just do this, that's all"....
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HA HA HA, well it is embarrassing. Either way, I think I am sort of "over this" if that make sense. Really. I think it was a phase...
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Hey hon
I don't know what to say...I know how you are sooo into him, i can't imagine suggesting you leave him. And as for the ultimatum, really, I don't think that would work...as for you going there...well I can't imagine you leaving your son, nor can I imagine your ex moving WITH you to the states...so it's quite a problem...
I'll think about this and come back to it later. As for now, i just worked all night and must sleep.
Maybe i'll come back to it with a fresh perspective...((sigh)) it is a position you are in. I so wish he would move here...
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I've given up, i just shave against the grain, daily....
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well let's just say for his birthday a few months ago I bought him a plug.
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TPBM is gonna have a busy weekend
Ya, probably. It IS my weekend off.
TPBM is reallllly tired.
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Holy moly girl! Post Baby?!! I long to look like that. I know from post baby sister. You look fantastic.
that's post TWO babies. And thank you.
I put these pics up a while ago for my own self esteem boost since my ex wasn't attracted to me.
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I know this post is not for me, but I perfer my MAN shaved.
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Very true
TPBM is completely exhausted.
yes and no. These shifts ARE pretty crazy and hard to adapt to. I need to try to sleep though,that's for sure.
TPBM hasn't noticed that Wayne Newton has had major cosmetic surgery...
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I bet I have a sex drive higher than you Kama. Why would I say that and I dont know you? Cause I have only had sex twice. And I will screw any chick right now due to my high drive. I want to have a four-some with my ex, her mom, my best friend and her sister. I know I could go 4 rounds in a day for probably 2 weeks before I slow down. I think guys have a sex drive that is either higher than most women's or just always on. Thats my opinion at least.
I hope you don't take this the wrong way but I think a lot of men THINK they could or would want to have as much sex as you stated above, however given opportunity, they tire.
I think there are a fair number or women with no sex drive and that pulls the women's number's down so to speak.
I think my drive at age 35 is higher or at least equal to my 26 year old boyfriend.
for another 2 years and then we got back together as "friends with benefits" a few years later...but ya, it was small. i think there is a term for that...micro penis. looking at the pics in the wiki, my man was thinner than the guy pictured, but maybe a TAD longer...still micro...
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wow, that is sad.
Minus the anal part, i feel like I was your wife. My ex probably could have written your post.
Too bad for him though, i'm cute and sexy. His loss!
Out of curiosity, what were you not attracted to about your wife?