JJlove

I want to thank all of you for excellent comments and suggestions. I love my wife very much and am so grateful for her in my life that I will continue to work patiently on this one. The comments made in the past 12 hours are collectively genius! Thank you all so much.

I'm looking for help with my wife's oral situation. She is usually reluctanct to give me a blow job. She has used the hygiene excuse once, even though I keep the hair trimmed and make sure I'm quite clean before bed. Since that excuse I've been scrubbing that entire region and beyond like a surgeon, but it hasn't made any difference. She also has trouble having an orgasm when I go down on her. Only once in her life has she even come this way (fortunately from my efforts, wish I could remember more of the specifics). Before our marriage, most of my girlfriends seemed to come easily when I went down on them, some multiple times, and I'm making a loving, real effort here. I go down on her fairly regularly, and often she won't let me when I make the move to go there. I've asked about getting more head, but that doesn't seem to help (except on birthday's and christmas). I am fairly patient but will occassionally make an overt move to get her to do it, which she usually does but not with enthusiasm. She never swallows, nor would I surprise her in the rare event of getting that far. Background, this is her 3rd marriage, and she doesn't talk openly about her previous ones. I suspect there may be some issues beyond my knowing. I've had past girlfriends who loved giving head, so even though I don't expect her to follow any standard, I do know how nice it would be to get and give oral satisfaction more frequently. Otherwise our sex is somewhat vanilla but loving and good. She comes about 80% of the time from intercourse. Thanks for any suggestions, JJlove