Yes the links are very helpful, thanks. My hubby wants vanilla with other women. We have started to explore d/s. He is dom and i more switch. He also identifies very strongly with polyamory which has just been rrealized consciously in the past several months. So we have some more talking and exploring together and apart. quote name='Angel5' date='Nov 1 2008, 10:04 PM' post='81928'] what type of "fruit" is your husband thinking of? does he want to play with other men, women with strap ons or just vanilla sex women? do you know? BTW i hope those links helped angel