angel1004

Hi Everyone, I'm new here, and fairly inexperienced. And as my title indicates, I'm not too confident in my sexual abilities. I've only slept with 2 guys in my life, including the guy I had sex with last night. It was our first time having sex with each other, though we had done other things in the past. I went down on him and he came. Then we started to have sex. He got me off, but he didn't come during sex. Eventually, he said something along the line of "I'm getting a cramp/getting tired (it was something like that) tired, it's fine, you got me off, I got you off" and we stopped. He didn't say it in a mean or resentful or aggravated way, but he said it. A few things to note - I was on top, which I had never been before. I've heard that a woman can only be bad in bed if she doesn't do any work, and I certainly tried (except at one point when he told me to just let him do the work, which was a bit before I came). Anyway, this probably sounds stupid, but I felt like I just couldn't move 'correctly' or didn't know how to while being on top. He was going so much faster than me, and I felt like I couldn't keep up on top. But I tried. It's not like I didn't move at all. Also, when he asked if I wanted to be on top, I said something like "well I never have before." In retrospect, that was probably a stupid thing to say, but I did. Which obviously clued him into my innocence because he then asked me how many guys I had been with. And because it didn't occur to me to lie, I told him the truth - only one. He claims he wasn't freaked out, but it's not like he would have admitted it if he were. I know he was a bit surprised that I was more innocent/inexperienced than he thought. Anyway, back to my original issue, I'm now worried that I'm bad at sex since he didn't come. I've tried to tell myself that it's not a big deal or maybe it's because he already had, but I don't think either is true. My understanding is that it's not good when a guy doesn't climax, and I'm wondering if it's me. On the other hand, afterwards, we were talking, and he was saying that he was surprised that I had only slept with one other person because I was really good. He didn't specify good at what though, and I think he was probably referring to good a bj's, since he actually came from that... My inexperience is embarrassingly evident in this post, and I'm a bit embarrassed to post this in the 1st place, but I'd love to hear what everyone has to say.