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Thank you both for your help. To answer your questions, there is no pain during oral sex and he is stimulating internally with fingers. The problem is the clit becomes extremely sensitive during orgasm. I know that is kind of the point of the orgasm, but I want to know if there is anything he or I can do to make it more enjoyable and less painful.

Hoping to get some assistance with an issue I am having. Although my husband is fabulous at giving me oral sex; whenever I orgasim from oral, it is painfnful. It is kind of hard to explain the pain.... The clit stimulation is a must, but then it feels like too much.... It could be the technique he is using as well.... I have only had a few orgasims from oral because it is painful so I may not be explaining it well enough to him or even understand it myself. Any tips / advice / ideas how to overcome that??? As I am on a quest for the multiple orgasim I know getting around this issue would go a long way in achieving that. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Thank you all for your advice, suggestions, and kind words. I really do appreciate the help. I am definitely feeling better about my situation. I am going to take some time and really think about your advice, and let it sink in before I decide how I am going to approach the discussion with my husband. Thanks again for all your help.

Hi all, I have been happily married for 10 years, and have a great sex life. A few years back I was having some health issues and lots of stress, so sex was not happening much. My husband was frustrated to say the least. He did not understand what I was going through emotionally or physically; and I wasn't quite sure how to explain... Now there are no health issues, and stress is less at work, so of course the libido is back up. Sometimes I find myself wanting sex more than I think he may, or he might not be catching the signals that of course I think are so obvious For our 10 year Anniversary this past year I made him a coupon book, and a little box of couples dice and cards games etc. That was 4 months ago and he has not touched it. I am not sure if he thinks it was a cute or funny gag gift; or thought it was silly. I have brought it up once or twice and he just kind of blew it off. I also suggested a date night once a week. We do not have any children, but he is going back to college, and I have a job that could keep me busy around the clock if I allowed it to. So sometimes the week slips by without us spending much time together. The date night lasted 2 weeks.....We have never been the most romantic couple in the world, but we have always been in love and had a good sex life. We seem to be able to keep the communication open about everything else..... I guess I am looking for some suggestions on how to get over my shyness in talking about sex and some ideas on opening up the communication. It sounds crazy but I may be afraid of rejection. I know it will not happen but when I think about talking to him about this, I feel like I would be embarrased or like he would think my ideas were silly.