This is somewhat an intriguing topic and definitely conversationally unique. Too often it's the husband being deprived but it's interesting to hear that the ladies have the same problem, albeit not as much but they do have it as well. I can empathize but it's only from a guy's perspective. Regrettably I am in that type of situation but after several attempts to get my wife to consider therapy I finally gave up. The breaking point was when after repeated requested to speak w/her gyno, she finally did. Doctor asked if she thought if everything was normal or if anything was wrong to which my wife replied "no everything is normal". That's when I realized that much like an addict, until she can admit there's something wrong, then truly in her eyes, there is nothing wrong. She's not sick, has any kind of problem but it struck home w/me. Essentially, your SO has to believe there is something wrong or not normal, otherwise things will never change. Unlike a drug addict (be it heroin, meth, ice, cocaine, whatever), you can't "abduct" someone then throw them into a detox as a means of intervention. My opinion, unless the male/female acknowledges or wants to make changes, the other SO has only 2 choices: 1. Accept that the situation is what it is. 2. Leave the situation There may be a chance that further conversations about changes might work but obviously no guarantee here.