[Women - Knock It Off!]

Here's an article on low sex marriages...though it's from a Christian perspective: http://www.marriagehelper.com/sexless_marriage.php

[Vibrators Harm Penetration Sensation?]

Ladies, have any of you found that a vibrator made penetration not feel as great? In other words, for those of you who could orgasm by penetration prior to using a vibrator, did using a vibrator cause you to lose that?

I hope I worded that so that it made sense.

Thanks.

[Ladies, How Often Do You Preform Oral? (or Men How Often Do U Get It?)]

My wife always liked to receive and gave but more because she was returning the favor. In the last 2 or 3 years something has changed big time (for the good).

One time we were planning to have sex and she just stopped and said that she wasn't turned on or wet. That frustrated both of us because we actually had some free time and had been looking forward to it. I was figuring out what I was going to do to get her there and all of a sudden she said, "I'll suck your dick."

I thought that she was sort of offering that so that at least I'd get something and so I said, "But I want you to cum too." She said, "I do to, that's why I want to go down on you." I gave her a look that said she needed to explain and she said, "It turns me on like mad to suck your dick." Sure enough, she was wet after a minute or so and ever since then it's a sure fire way. It really turns her on.

I have no problem with her needing that to be turned on.

[Bring On The Newbie!]

Hi there,

I'm a newbie here. I actually work for a marriage and sex enhancement organization. I look forward to reading posts (more posts that is) and interacting with folks.

Take care.

[Sexy Ideas]

Xzander's Mommy, I totally hear what you're saying. My hubby and I are definitely coming out of a considerable rut we were in while our kids were little. It was hard for me to feel sexy--I was carrying extra weight, didn't have time to exercise, didn't have energy, and the kids were so physically demanding that I often felt touched out by the end of the day. Coming out of that rut is a little more challenging that I had anticipated it would be. Turns out, the passionate sex life that I want is not simply an on/off switch!! Who knew? LOL

I have finally realized that I am sexy to my amazing hubby, and that sex is not just something to do when we have time and energy; rather it's something that we need to make time for, and it turns out staying up a little later is well worth it, because I feel so refreshed and energized after a good session.

I have to confess that there was a time when I would have been relieved to get the news that we couldn't have sex for a while ("woohoo, I'm off the hook"). So I think it's great that you are thinking about ways to satisfy him during and after this hiatus. Definitely talk to him and make getting out of this rut a priority; it is SO worth it.

We're in that area to a degree. The kids, who we love with everything we have, take a lot of our energy. And we have very little privacy. Even when we close and lock our door we can hear them or are worried about them and that's a major distraction. After they go to bed at night we're usually so tired. When I was 18 I never thought I'd be too tired for sex, but here I am, telling my wife I'm too tired! She gets really ticked. I can't blame her, I'm awesome. LOL!

[Strip Checkers]

Rook!

Charades!

[Favorite Lube For Anal?]

i think that there's just something wrong with me....pretty much every lube i've tried has burned, and i've never once had sex where it didn't hurt. although i do know others with sensitive skin that do not like astroglide in particular.

For anal you might want to try Vaseline. But only for anal.

[What Haven't You Done?]

Jerking off in a sock is just a standard thing for lads as they grow up i presume, so convenient!

Ive never had sex outside.... doesnt really do it for me... scared of getting caught!!

Sex outside is one...it might be fun. Like on the beach!

[Over The Phone]

That makes mine sound a little more planned.

[How Often Do You Have Sex?]

I'd say 3 times a week. A good weekend will skew that though because we might have sex 2 or 3 times on Saturday. She used to wake me up in the middle of the night...I miss that.

[Preparing For Sexual Problems]

I've found that being tired is a robber of sex drive to both of us. So we've started trying to have sex during the day instead of at the end of the day with whatever energy we have left.

Vacations are good for the ole sex drive as well. Sleep late, do what you like, wear skimpy clothes, and have sex early and often.

[Anal Starter Toys]

I didn't see the anal starter kit before ordering the Enchanted Pleasure Wand. Does anyone have opinions on it? My wife has recently started enjoying anal play and when I mentioned something like this she liked the idea.

I hope it can be a good starter for us even though it's not technically a starter kit.