Kayland

Thanks everyone for the advice and answering my questions. It really does relieve some of the pressure and the frustration in knowing that i am not alone in my endeavor.

Thanks for that. After reading your post and a few others today I realize I am not alone in my challenges and this encourages me to continue my efforts. I will try your suggestion- thanks for the tip!

somethingsweet's original post sounds a lot like me actually. except i have no difficulty getting off when i am alone but it is with my boyfriend that i cant seem to get there. I am on the brinnk ALOT but never seem to reach it. And like the original post I too have a boyfriend who only wants to see me experience pleasure as well. There is intense pleasure but there is also pressure to get there. and while i continue to read articles books, and now blogs and community messages, I am also tired of reading and ready to be experiencing. Any other advice on what to do in the moment? somethingsweet, have you had any successes since you posted this? thanks

I am new to TT. I have read basically like all the articles- (omygosh they are great!!)- some of them a few times. I need some advice on orgasms and letting go. I dont feel sexually incompetent but I know i am somewhat conservative and inexperienced and i would like to open up more.- to develop my sexual personality. I have major difficulty orgasming during sex (or foreplay for that matter) with my boyfriend. And actually its not a problem with just the current boyfriend but like all of them in the past as well- so i know its a "me" problem. I have not really ever orgasmed with a partner. On the rare occurrence i have but i believe they have all been really mild i mean nothing has ever knocked my socks off or anything. and i have no problem going solo to do this- when i am alone. I have tried to masturbate with my boyfriend and still no go! I feel like my method for orgasming is not conducive to orgasming with a person. How can i get around this? Here is another oddity. when i am with my boyfriend and he is fingering my gspot- my body puts out so much lubricant- and the feeling is VERY intense (like nothing i have ever felt before) but it never really reaches a final release- i never feel like i have orgasmed or anything. does a female orgasm when she produces ejaculate? how do i know if this is what i am doing? I have never put out that kind of liquid before this boyfriend. Could i be missing the orgasms all together? When I am alone they are strong. I cant seem to replicate this with a man though. What to do? frustrated, Kayland

Just wanted to introduce myself. I recently ordered my first toy off TT - and then i ordered some more! I have been rather conservative in my sexuality and am wanting to expand my sexual personality- TT has so far helped me to do so especially with the articles and tips. . . but i figured its time to get on the message board and start asking all the things I don't know who else to ask! I am glad this forum is available. Look forward to messaging with ya'll in the future. Thanks! ~Kayland