Members schlingel Posted May 27, 2008 Members Report Share Posted May 27, 2008 well, i can't keep up. i just got a quick email (details promise to follow), that my wife, up at 4am, dove in and pulled it off - so to speak. wow. no videos, no phone/chat sex, just her, in the dark by herself. i don't know how to express my joy and relief! what i don't know now, is how to respond. i don't want her to feel pressured to explain or convince me of anything, but i sure want to let her know i'm hard as steel at the thought! as i may tend to overdo at times, any suggestions? remember, this is the second time in possibly a lifetime (or at least in the 22 years we've been together). as i see it, this is huge! how do let her know i'm happy, proud, excited and ready for more... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members angelkisses98 Posted May 27, 2008 Members Report Share Posted May 27, 2008 just be honest with her. i wouldn;t force the idea on her, however, let her know gently but honestly what the thought of her doing that does to you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members cmwise1 Posted May 27, 2008 Members Report Share Posted May 27, 2008 just be honest with her. i wouldn;t force the idea on her, however, let her know gently but honestly what the thought of her doing that does to you.Agree with AK. Be honest, but don't overload her with information...let he know how proud you are of her, but try not to pressure her for more, yet.....Congratulations!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members mystofpric Posted May 27, 2008 Members Report Share Posted May 27, 2008 Just tell her that your happy for her and that you ready for more when she is. I don't get it though, why are you so intent on making her masterbate? I know it's good for her and all but, maybe it's just not her thing? and if she was resistant before or just not into it, doing it for your sake won't help much. I do hope you guys work things out though. just my .02 cents. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members schlingel Posted May 27, 2008 Author Members Report Share Posted May 27, 2008 Just tell her that your happy for her and that you ready for more when she is. I don't get it though, why are you so intent on making her masterbate? I know it's good for her and all but, maybe it's just not her thing? and if she was resistant before or just not into it, doing it for your sake won't help much. I do hope you guys work things out though. just my .02 cents.it's not so much the act itself, but the "change in attitude" towards sex in general. as i tried to explain, the past 21 years has been a contant, uphill battle. i'm not sure anyone on this forum can imagine the overwhelming lack of sexual drive my wife has. i honestly (used to) think she could do without her whole life. i'm convinced what sex we do have is out of sympathy she feels for me after seeing me deprived for days/weeks on end. really. so i feel a very big obstacle has been cleared in all this and there might be hope for us (ok me) for the next 21 years, other than expanding my private porn collection that i used to fill in the gaps in our sex life.don't worry, there is no pressure i could possibly exert to make her do anything she doesn't want to do - i've figured that out over the years.thanks for the advice Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Amylynn920 Posted May 27, 2008 Members Report Share Posted May 27, 2008 Well glad she is at least moving forward. But I still have trouble wrapping my mind around the fact that anyone can be so apathetic over sex. I mean it's free, feels great and it should be a natural thing. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members nosleepnmesa Posted May 27, 2008 Members Report Share Posted May 27, 2008 I agree with all the other posters. Myself being at one time the women "who could live without it" at one point in my life, due to numerous things, kids, stress, life just alone can cause a sex drive to go away. Thank her and hug her just dont overwhelm her with all your emotions and excitement. Although in your own way let her know how you feel, that you enjoy it, love it etc.... I am very glad to hear that she came out a little per say. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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