Having been the one dealing with a partner in an emotional affair, I had to respond. I have been married for 24 years and recently went through 6 years of "emotional affair" territory with my husband. I was really flaky for a long time,( financially) and needed to grow up!!! My hubby chose a woman many years older that represented security, stability and groundedness( may not be a word, but y'all get the drift)... he found out in short order that the plusses were far-outweighed by the minuses( high-maintenance, drama queen) so we are working at it, successfully, I might add!! You have to find a way to talk with your partner about "what's missing" and how to fix that. Love and compromise and find the path to each other....it IS worth it... Penny