Some times it's very easy to lose focus and let negative feelings take over. I try to think of good things and really appreciate what I have instead of what I don't have. I start at the small things I have, and build on that, instead of seeing the big things I don't have. We all have positive and negative thing that happen in our life. Reach for the positive and the negatives will be easier to ignore. I wish the best for both of you..