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I am all in the moment. I think my biggest distraction is wondering if he is getting as much out of it as I am, he does but I still wonder. I also have to remind myself to breath. That is distracting enough.

once every 2 - 3 months? gakkkkk I am much older than most here and I would love to be able to say at least 3 times a week and I too enjoy the marathons

Thank you Wen. I don't think parents intended to shackle us with this belief system but it is damned hard to break through.

M & D, I'll take your word for it. It really is not something I've ever cared to venture and don't expect that'll change. It just isn't for me.

hmmm, anal is not my thing....no no no

I shave and I appreciate him shaving. As for rimming...hell no. Everyone has their limits

Thank you all. I am so envious of women who are getting theirs. Whether or not I do remains to be seen. I am really quite amazed at things I never knew about the guys. just shaking my head sheepishly

I do enjoy it very much and I do savor those special moments. It still is frustrating in the end. For me masturbation is way not even close to the real thing. I know what works, it just doesn't happen. to be fair I'd say sometimes maybe a micro orgasm. Certainly nothing close to what I remember....and I do remember it clearly. I've never talked about it till now. Thanks for responding. Appreciate all input for sure.

I vividly remember my first, second and third orgasm. All extremely intense and uncontrollable. I was 14 and my bf and I never had sex, never petted. This was all a result of kissing .. a lot of necking. I was aware of his hardness but never touched him. When this 'thing' happened I had no clue what it was. I just knew it was something I had no control over and it frightened me. The last time I felt it coming on I pushed him away. It was simply too much, I didn't understand it and was not mature enough to handle it. Fastforward to becoming sexually active...years of frustration. I almost get there and then bam..it's gone. I am convinced it is a result of the experiences of my innocent youth. I think never having had an orgasm would be easier than knowing how incredible it is and not being able to get there again. I have tried the many suggestions seen here and other places. Zip. I am open to whatever you have to offer on this. I

soft spot on the underside of his penis Where exactly is this soft spot?

I've been searching for a place much like this in hopes of catching up, learning, and hopefully validating my sexuality. Sound odd? I've recently realized I've wasted my whole adult life not permitting myself to be sexual. After all, good girls behave...like good girls, right? I've recently discovered, thanks to a certain individual, that omg, I can enjoy sex, I can feel free (or freer) having sex and I can ask for what I want and need. So, in joining this group it is my hope that I discover things I never knew....and have already found out there is a lot to learn. I am not so much about the trashy aspect but finding freedom to be a woman. Who knows? I may like trashy one day .