I agree that being open IS important!!! I disagree on you blaming Christians. Don't be so jugemental! Being a Christian doesn't mean having to be prudish. All people are different! Some just misunderstand or are misinformed how sex can be a true blessing in a relationship... that's all. Christians and Non-Christians alike. As long as you both communicate what works and what doesn't work - the blessing of incredible sex and incredible love will be there. Oh yes... the right woman who does like this - she's out there - just be patient. I'm sure that "huge lack of women" you refer to, is only a very small percentage. Remember to TALK... EXPRESS... and COMMUNICATE!