I have to tell you, with my ex I avoided such things, but with the man I love now...there isn't any part of him I don't want to lick, kiss or penetrate!!! He is the same way with me and it drives me crazy...the first time he stuck his finger in my ass while we were banging I thought I would go through the roof...I had never felt anything like that before. Like anything else, Bastian, experience things in each your own time. I fingered him and licked him many times before he got past his limits...either way we had just showered and we were pretty much as clean as could be. So shower together and relax...whatever it takes...enjoy!