Britta

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Hello.

OMG, that's totally not cool not to reciprocate. As a woman I should be more compassionate to her side, but that's not ok, if she enjoys receiving oral so much. Maybe she has a hang-up because she had a bad experience previously but still she should accomdate. I know I don't want a guy to ejaculate in my mouth or my face, but I still give oral and just stay aware of how close my bf is. Furthermore, there are times I'm not into intercourse for whatever reason but my guy wants something, so I'll at least give him oral and a hand job. And there have been times when I'll get so turned on giving oral that my "headache" will disappear and I'll be up for anything. Well almost anything.

If you and your partner are planning a Romantic Weekend, would you choose a weekend at a cabin in the woods or a weekend at a hotel in the city?

Do you give her oral? Have you ever received oral?

I’m sorry to read this. I would like to hope I would be more understanding than your wife is being. I haven’t been with a guy that has had this issue but I don’t penal penetration to be satisfied. Even just oral stimulation is enough to satisfy me, especially if he is passionate and shows genuine intimacy.

Welcome to the Forum

I've done a Brazialian wax twice and honestly didn't like how it looked. Looked too pre-pubescent. I know guys like that shaved look, but guys don't appreciate the itching and chaffing I get as it grows back. I generally keep everything trimmed and nice, but not bald.

Britta says hi and welcome.

Here are my top three 1) Body odor. A guy doesn't have to wear a fancy cologne but he shouldn't reek. I meet a guy who was turned on after work outs and doing physical stuff, but his sweatiness was not desirable. 2) Bad Breath. Whether it's a partner, a friend, or a client, bad breath is a downer. Tobacco is the worst; complete non starter for me. 3) Confidence (Too much or too little). I like a guy who is comfortable in his own skin and knows what he is doing. Guys who are overly confident tend to be dicks and think they are God's gift to woman. I find them way too aggressive in the relationship. A guy with poor self confidence can be so exhausting, always looking for reassurance, and usually indecisive. I do want to say, "I'm not here to be your mom."

So Everyone, what are your turn-offs? What are the top things that just ruin it?

Jomaha, There are some woman that for some reason don't like it. Here are my thoughts. Make sure you are fresh and groomed down there. You don't have to be shaved, just nicely landscaped. Even apply some cologne in the region. Try to make a game out of it and not an act. Make it a kissing game- she kisses your chest, your thighs, your stomach, etc. Don't put a lot of pressure on her to give you oral. Honestly even though I enjoy giving oral, I get a little turned off if the guy tries to deepthroat it. Like the other woman wrote, it's about the licking the various man parts.

I will let him orgasm for oral and touch, but I find a lot of guys want to watch it ejaculate. It's like they are in a elementary science class. They have the baking soda and vinegar volcano and just have to watch it erupt. I just don't want it in my mouth or aimed at my face. (I get my facial at the spa, not in the bedroom.)

Welcome, from Britta

I like the message option on this forum, although it isn't super convenient, but guys if you are sending me messages, try to expand some energy into your messages. One sentence messages, messages without a vowel, text lingo messages don't show much thought or creativity. I'm a little anal about this because my Mom is an English teacher, so those messages likely will be ignored. Maybe it is generational as the older gentlemen seem to have a better handle on this concept. (Lol, not kidding,)

As part of foreplay and lovemaking, I enjoy giving oral. I like it best when the guy is fresh clean, closely trimmed (doesn't have to be shaved), and is responsive to my attention. I don't want him trying to shove it down my throat. I like to be able to show attention to the whole region - the stomach, thighs and legs, either with kisses or massages. I am ok tasting Precum but not into the rest. Does your GF bring you to the brink of orgasm and stop?

Guy's penises are not very attractive. It doesn't matter if they are fallcid or erect, they just aren't attractive. Even bedazzled does nothing for me me. (Btw, I don't think a woman's vagina is very attractive either, but I know you guys are about visual stimulation.)

Welcome. Stay young. ;)

I will occasionally clean the house naked, especially if I start off cleaning the shower. I'm not the Erin Andrews type that parades around naked. I live in a condo and my neighbor is a retired handyman that I call on for small chores. He has a habit of just dropping by, so I have to be cautious. Coincidentally he tends to show up after I've just taken a shower. Someone pointed out to me that he can probably figure it out because he can hear my hot water heater exhausting or something like that.

Yes, I have faked. There have been a couple memorable occasions. Once when I was a newbie, I naively thought it might help get me over the top, but just made me self conscious and him orgasm more quickly. Another time, my friend was trying to climax again and it reached a point it wasn't working for me and didn't feel especially good, so I went full throttle and he reached right away. Also in college my GFs and I had a late night drinking game where we took turns sharing our fake orgasms. Of the 5 or 6 of us, I was voted one of the best. (I keep forgetting to include on my resume. ;) ) Britta

Honesty is definitely the best policy but I also believe there is TMI. Sometimes info doesn't need to be shared. As I read the responses it sounds like you guys want me to tell you. Would you take it as a challenge to be the first? Would it just be pressure to make sure the oral was satisfying?

Thanks. Enjoy.

Hello and Welcome, Britta

Wow, unanimous! I didn't necessarily expect that but I will say that as I have gotten older I do let myself go. I'm not as much self conscious in bed and willing to be more "selfish" and just enjoy the orgasm. Curiois, if you think I should tell my guy that I can't orgasm from vaginal intercourse so I need the oral/clitoral stimulation. Thoughts?

If you read my earlier post, I mentioned how I don't orgasm from vaginal sex but do with clitoral stimulation. So here is my question for you...if I'm receiving great oral stim, should allow myself to orgasm, knowing that I won't orgasm during intercourse? I'm serious. So far when I have had intercourse after having an orgasm, I don't come close to have a second. However, if I resist the orgasm during oral, I will likely come extremely close during intercourse. Therefore the conundrum of waiting until intercourse with the slim hope that I just might have that elusive first vaginal orgasm.