[Keeping Your Man Wanting More]

Dingbat: Buy the sex ed videos, from the store here, and buy books on sex. Tantric sex is a wonderful approach to the whole issue. Watch the videos with your husband. He needs to get educated too. And, insist that he does. This is not being bitchy, but just looking out for yourself. You have a right to be pleasured by your mate, and he should want to listen to you tell him how to do that, and accept instructions from you. He can also learn how to control his climax, and if he still comes very fast the first time, just take it as a compliment, and work him back up for a second erection and then make love. This idea that we fail because we get too excited- What is that? And Where is that coming from?  Aren't we suppose to get escited with our lover?  Are we at the races? Is there some maximum time allowed to climax in , and who dishes out the penalties points?  The two of you need to get an education, and then relax. Sex is suppose to be fun( A truly novel suggetion here in America, I know) and the time you play with each other should be filled with laughter, and tickling and feeling and lots of orgasms. Stop making it WORK.  And tell him to knock off the booze. One small drink or shot is the most anyone needs to loosen up. More than that and it becomes a performance inhibitor. Why would a man have to get drunk to make love to his lover?

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Thank you for that Howard. I am going to check out the videos APAS. I really enjoy this sight and reading all of the posts. I have learned more in the last 3 days about sex then I ever did in 8 yrs of marraige and 1 full semester of sex ed with Sister Rosemary. Maybe that was my problem all along, Sex Ed with a nun! lol.

[Three Ways]

I cant imagine having a 3some, nor is it something i would ever want to do or watch but reading about all your expirences has been enlightening.

[Keeping Your Man Wanting More]

My husband just flat sux in bed, he can never go more then a few minutes and if by some chance he can it is because he is hammered and his erection goes away before either of us climax.

I do not help matters because I get pissy with him and act like a bitch about it but dangit! I am sick of bad sex. I have read the above posts in hopes to find some relevant info to help me help him. I think the only thing I can do is be more patient with him or slip him some xanax with his meal?

I am pretty uptight and conservitive and as I sit and reread this I am beginning to realize the problem is more mine then his, frankly i dont think i would want to have sex with me either, Any tips for loosing the conservitive bedroom play?