My husband just flat sux in bed, he can never go more then a few minutes and if by some chance he can it is because he is hammered and his erection goes away before either of us climax. I do not help matters because I get pissy with him and act like a bitch about it but dangit! I am sick of bad sex. I have read the above posts in hopes to find some relevant info to help me help him. I think the only thing I can do is be more patient with him or slip him some xanax with his meal? I am pretty uptight and conservitive and as I sit and reread this I am beginning to realize the problem is more mine then his, frankly i dont think i would want to have sex with me either, Any tips for loosing the conservitive bedroom play?