Beyondblessed

Thats one of the biggest turn on's there is IMO. To know that my girl is wet is almost better than her even touching me, especially to know that I made her that way. I dont think a girl can be too wet...no such thing. BeyondBlessed

Thank you for your wonderful responses...i am grateful....i dont really have alot of places to turn for this kind of mentoring or advice...i am thankful...thank you. And as for your question. Limitation to only kissing, hugging, and non naked touching was the original plan....and as for my opinion that intent has not changed between us...we very much long in our hearts for sexual purity between us in our relationship and in Gods will for us. We never originally intended to go as far as we have gone sexually. We didnt set liimitations or boundaries though because we knew if we put the line there...we would cross it so we just tried to keep ourselves out of tempting situations....but... We live 200 miles away from each other due to school, and when we see each other its usually only for a couple of days....and we cant afford hotels and such so we stay with each other. Kissing lead to hugging and that lead to bodily contact which turned into romantic petting which tuned into a hand down her pants which turned into "I want to make you feel good"....snowball effect. But with sober minds(not drugs or alcohol but "hot and botherds") we wouldnt have done that. Sex was not part of the plan but it happened....we where good for a long time, but thats not an excuse. neither of us believe that sex(oral,vaginal,anal) is for outside of marriage....but when hormones and heavy breathing come into play things become skewed. We dont believe in it or that it was right but it happened and we are resloving to try our hardest to not let it happen again...I am not terribly proud that i have acted hipocritically against what i believe but I cant help that I did...i can just try to not do it again...also I am human and make mistakes although I dont want you to think that I didnt love doing what i did...i love hermore than anyhting and intend to make her my wife someday. thank you for wanting to understand this, and thank you for not condemning me. It is hard to be in my situation because I still have feelings although I have beliefs too...i strive to be a Christian young man, upright and chivalrous in the things that i do, but am tempted and fail as a human. Please dont let my short comings taint your view of what a decent man or a Christian is... I try to be the best person that i can be according to my personal convitions and beliefs but I do fall short. and therfore upon which I rely on Mercy and Grace. I dont know if this helps you out in understanding my actions but i will gladly keep trying. God bless -BeyondBlessed

Maybe Im doing the measuring thing wrong...I took a piece of string (an old shoe string) and wrapped it around the thickest part of my penis(fully erect), then marked the string...laid it out straight and flat then measured it. It was 5 and a half inches long when measured. Tell me if I did it wrong. Id agree with you though about the behavior, it was too hot and heavy and things went too far for our personal beliefs and convictions, but we have made our peace with each other and God, and are heading in the right direction. Thank you for your reply. -BeyondBlessed

Wow...thats aweosme...usually its the other way around. I dont really know what kind of advice to offer except to say embrace it as women can experience multiple orgasms...but might also try working your PC muscle, that can lead to greater climax control....when peeing try stopping yourself in mid stream...just for about 2-3 seconds at a timeand you can strengthen this muscle and ad endurance to the musculature as well as the nerve endings. But remember, between a husband and a wife there are few things sexier than a man knowing that he please his wife. So when you have orgasms so quickly, that says to him that hes doing the right thing and pleases you inspiring confidence and is a TREMENDOUS turn on. Good luck -BeyondBlessed

Inexperience is one thing, I for one...am inexperienced...but I know quite a bit with regards to human emotions and thought processes...Im working on a psychology/counseling major. Sex means different things to different people. some people feel turned off by sex toys and explict material (personally I can relate to this). Sex between two partners especially in the committed bonds of marriage is a very special thing for most. Perhaps with a bit more communication on your part youmight be able to find out what causes the apprehension in the sexual relationship which brings me to a question. How sexually active are you two? frequently?...daily?...weekly? and is the sex satisfying to her and you? some folks just arent turned on by the idea of "sexual openness" or explictness because to them that is "dirty"...these are just ways of describing feelings. Thingslike dildos, vibrators, and other sex toys including dvd's can seem unromantic and awkward. Sex for alot of women as well as men is very mental and needs to be stimulated just as much if not more than the physical. things like physical attraction, attention to feelings, moods, candles, baths, dinner, thoughfulness, caring, and sensitivity all play into romance and therefore sexuality. If there is a lack of these thing which perhaps play into her sexual ideal than you might just be getting the horse ahead of the cart and saying to her "lets get down and dirty" when she wants to be swept off her feet first. comunicate with her and take time to learn her ideals of sexuality, what it means to her, what she feels about it, what she feels when you do it. from there situations can be assesed. Good luck, let me know what you think -BeyondBlessed

ok...Id just like to say that I am not activly sexually active...at least inteding to be. But my GF lives pretty far away and although we are waiting for marriage to have full on penatrating intercourse we have dabled in a few other regions. But My question is with regards to penis size equaling fullfillment. On the last day that my GF was in town, We where just in bed holding each other and that lead to this then that and so forth and we ended up close to naked next to each other. I began to rub her with my penis and that progressed to me rubbing her clitoris with my penis. and although we had never intended to go this far, it went a step further and although we didnt have "sexual intercourse", I did end up placing my erection into her vagina. She tells me that I am not small with regards to penis size and I believe her because I trust her..and if you are wondering I am 6 1/2" long and 5 1/2" around. but when i entered her it wasnt at all what i thought it would feel like.(I had never been inside a vagina before)..this was my first time at 21. I always imagined it as being tighter because it felt tighter around my fingers when we had dabled that far. She orgamed almost imediately and then I withdrew knowing that i had well crossed our boundries and did not progress to orgasm. but...Could she have just been VERY aroused and could that have cause her to "loosen"? She was very very wet..more than i had ever felt her and ever though I previously had my fingers(two) in her I dont think I would have loosened her up that much. Just wondering what was normal. -BeyondBlessed

As a man, I can say what really drives me wild is when my girl grabs my hand and puts it all over her ...Like brings myhand up to her mouth and sucks one of my fingers then lets it slowy be brought down over her neck, then breasts, then tummy, then on further south...and that lets me know shes excited. Or even when shes fully clothed, if she subtley(but firmly) tugs at my belt or on my belt loops, or places my fingers in the front of her jeans slighty down into them..inside the panties...just enough to feel some fur. OMW..i almost DIE. -BeyondBlessed

I dont think that "weight" is always a problem. Ive dated both skinny girls and girls that where more "full". i never thought that Id ever want a girl who was bigger than a size 1 or 2 until I met the girlim currently with. Id never dated a girl that was not "skinny" so I didnt know what I was missing. Im fairly in shape too...very slender...5'10" @ 155lbs...7-8% body fat...depends on what timeof year you catch me. My GF would kill me if she knew I posted this but she is about 5'5" and weighs about 130lbs. she doesnt particularly like the way she looks but i cant tell her enough how CRAZYit drives me. I am completely in love with her AND her shape and size...she carries alot of it in her hips and bottom end..thighs too...She is not very top heavy either just enough for a handful....but it is mind blowing how much i like it...OMW She hates that she has that little pooch on her tummy and some handles on the side...but it givesme somting to grab. i love it when she thinks that she is not perfect...cause it gives me a chance to tell that she IS. Sure...some things with regards to size are not appealing....like those girls that you see on those gag gift cards at spencers....like 600lb girls in thongs...vomit... but i prefer a girl who has somthing to keep me warm and somthing for me to hang onto. Love the way God made you...cause there are guys who like it....LOVE IT