My wife is an old fashioned sort of gal. She thinks that it is up to the man to take the lead in the act of intercoure. She is 56 years old and needs the use of a lubricant everytime that we "screw" She no longer is able to get herself "damp" She looks to me to make the first advances towards intercourse. I have been keeping a daily journal and keeping track of how many times we "fuck" and starting back in Oct 2005 we fucked on Oct23, then 20 Nov, 4 Dec, 20 Dec, 28 Dec. December looks like an active month for us. Whoopee we did it three times that month. And we haven't done it once in 2006. I want very much for her to get an "orgasm" I'm just not sure how to go about it. You would think that after having been married to her for 32 years I would know what she wants, here's a real shocker, "I don't have a clue as to what she wants" I do know that whenever she takes a shower prior to bedtime she is telling me in a silent message, I want you to eat my pussy tonight. And I do very much enjoy "feasting on the yeast" I just wish that while I was down there between her legs, lapping on her pussy, I could take a well shaped dildo and insert it and fuck her with it as I lick her clit. I think that she is fearful that I will want to use a dildo on her pussy all the time instead of trying my penis on her. Nothing could be farther from the truth. I just want to watch her facial expressions as I insert a dildo into her waiting pussy. I want to know if she will smile or frown with this action. I want her to choose the size and length dildo, but she won't. And I don't know why. I'm not the jealous type. If she wants an 12 incher then I'll buy her a 12 incher. I only want what she wants. Better sexual relations.