I too am a Christian, and I Also Grew up believing that You had to be a virgin before Marriage. I met this boy, and I regret totally for doing this... But He couldn't keep his penis in his pants. I didn't know how to say No to him ( I was 16, he was 21... Rape, I know...) I wanted to make sure he was happy, because I was a sweet Person, and I hated saying no to people. I let him to what he wanted, and the whole time it was going on, my heart was screaming "No!! Make Him STOP!" But I didn't say no to him. I didn't know how.. I was 16 and Rediculously stupid. I almost got Pregnant at the age of 16. I felt aweful and repented so many times, begging God for forgiveness, then I learned that I already have been forgiven. I Used to get mad at every single guy that I dated after that, because they all tried to have sex with me. (I'm a pretty girl, not to brag or anything, but I had so many guys that would ask me out... and they would get total rejection, because they weren't what I wanted...) I was able to say No to them.. I knew that I wanted to wait till I found that Right Guy and was married to him. I remember I kicked this one guy in the nuts because he was trying so hard to get me to sleep with him. He kept whispering things in my ear and telling me how sexy I was. I had had enough of it.... I Finally Found the guy that I want to be with for the rest of my life. And He wasn't a virgin either. But we were open and honest with each other about it. We're both ok with the fact that niether of us were virgins. And He actually wanted to hunt the guy that "took" my virginity and tell him what exactly was on his mind. I have Sex every now and then with my Fiance'. I know that He actaully cares about me, and doesn't use me like most guys who just want to get in my pants. My Fiance' Treats me like I'm a princess, and Tells me I beautiful inside and out. He's got all of the right qualities, looks, personality... Everything...