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Hello to all. I am needing a little help with positions that allow for maximum penetration. My SO is not what you would call large, although he is somewhat thick, and sometimes it isn't fully hard, so I am looking for a way that will be the most satisfying for the both of us. We have tried a few things, and just to be sure that we haven't missed anything, I was hoping for some advice. To narrow the positions down somewhat, to keep from someone having to go over the obvious ones, he really likes to go in from behind, that would be his favorite, and to me, it's just not getting all the way in there! Maybe 1/3 of the way in. And altough I know that it doesn't have to be any farther in to have orgasms, etc, sometimes I want to be completely fulfilled, so to speak. So, could someone maybe help with a few ideas? Just racking my brain at the moment, I thought about when he's fully hard, sitting in his lap, but would it be better facing him, or turned away from him? Just curious. Thanks to all for the help.

My boyfriend and I have been having the same problems. He is 40. At times, he gets hard, and it is a rush to get it in before he gets soft again. 50% of the time, it gets soft before we can enjoy it. I am at my wits end. I have tried to get to the root of the problem, asking if he's under stress, if he feels like he has to perform for me, etc. We are open about it. So there is communication. It seems like he has trouble feeling any stimuli, he asks me to take the head with my fingers, and rub it, while stoking his balls, and again, 50% of the time this doesn't work. It also takes him a long time to reach an orgasm. I hate it that it takes all this work to get things going, and would never tell him this; and although I am a patient girl, and will do what it takes, it gets to me. I start doubting his attraction for me, which can lead to other problems. He mentioned that he has begun doing the male equivalent of kegal exercises, to see if that will help. Has anyone had any sucess with ANYTHING? What about herbal remedies? He has access to a doctor friend, and could probably get something to try, but I would hope he wouldn't have to go that route. This seems so unfair. I hope that one day, we will get married, and even though I could enjoy a life with him without any penetration involved, I would not want to try it. Any advice?

Oh my goodness, Howard. I almost choked to death reading this! How funny. Thank you for clearing this up. (How embarrassing!) I did think you peeled it. Oh well, you seem to be the one in the know around here. BTW, I finally swallowed for the first time today. I was caught up in the moment, so was he, and I did it. I am so proud! I did gag twice though, and he definitely noticed, he said so afterwards, but he was so grateful, that I think it was okay. I mean who does he have to compare it to? I will just get better and better, and one day I hope to think nothing of it! Thanks for the help.

I was amazed just reading. I remember I have done this with a fudge pop. Needless to say, that will be the first thing I put in the ol' buggy when I go to the grocery store tomorrow. (I don't like bananas!!!)Maybe a cucumber or two will find it's way in there as well. LOL. As for the gagging/cum thing? I think it is a psychological thing. It might be different if it is hitting the back of my throat as opposed to my tongue. Maybe I will learn to like the taste after a while. He is the one man I would love to do this with, so I will let you know how in all comes out! (I know, I just had to say it!)

Thanks for all the input. I am so stubborn, I will keep working at it until I get the desired results. By God, he is going to love it! To answer your question, yes, he says that he loves the way it feels. He has had trouble all along with his erection doing other things as well, so I bet it isn't my technique that is the major problem. He is 40, a little out of shape, although he is currently working out with weights and exercising. He does smoke, so we have a lot of hurdles to jump over. Mikayla, after reading all that I have on deep throating, I know I need some advice. I have only swallowed a few times, and not with my current boyfriend. The only reason I haven't, (I would love to blow his mind and do it) is I don't really think it would be a turn on for him, for me to be constantly gagging around his cock. I have a problem with the gagging, and it used to not be such a problem, but I had a steady lover for a while, and just got out of the habit. Really come to think of it, I haven't done it since high school, I guess. I am now back into the scene, and I want to refresh myself on how to do all of this stuff. Also, whenever I have tasted pre-cum in my mouth, I shiver, and soon after I gag. I have upon occasion tried to overcome thinking about it, and been sucessful at times. I would love to take his load. Can you help explain how to get used to deep-throating? Do you have to relax your throat or something? Is there a secret to it?

Hello to everyone, yes I am a newbie. I have never had trouble bringing a man to orgasm when giving head. In fact, I have always seemed to be good at it, if I am to believe the compliments I have received. I am having trouble bringing my bf to orgasm. It has only happened twice, where I didn't feel exhausted afterwards. With him, I am not in control of things. Normally, with other partners, I could spend lots of time licking, sucking, twirling my tongue around, using my hand a little while sucking on the tip, and have them cumming in no time. With my bf, this is not the case. In fact, just yesterday, I ended up with a busted lip trying to make it happen for him. He would never want to intentionally hurt me, I know. First of all, let me say that he is not used to getting head. He has only had sex with his previous wife of 18 years, and she would not give head at all, so he is new to all of this. It seems like he is used to getting to an orgasm one way, going at it like there is no tomorrow. He seems to want to thrust vigorously, no matter what we're doing. It gets to become a chore, if all you are doing is bobbing your head up and down for thirty minutes. Then I get tired of doing it in that same position, and when I switch, it takes that much longer to bring him back to the same point that he was before I switched. Also, I know that we have some kind of problem, because he doesn't stay hard. I am at a loss, this has never been a problem for me. I want to please him, even if I have to teach him, but with an 18 year old habit, I don't know if this is possible. I want to enjoy what I am doing, as well. Any advice would be appreciated.