Howard this question is for you since your a guy. Heres my problem Im finishing up my bachelors in mathematics this may, Im 38 and frankly quite attractive for my age but have never really flirted much less asked anyone out until recently. I totally felt like an idiot to be honest, but heres the deal. I have an instructor this semester who I think is smart, funny and absolutely cute for his 54 years. Its the first time Ive had him for an instructor because his field is computer science and just happens to be teaching a mathematics elective that i chose. I had plans the other night to go out with a friend and at the last minute she canceled because she was called into work, well i was all dressed up with no where to go and decided i didnt want to stay in sooooooooo I called up cute instructor and asked him what he was doing and if he was interested in seeing a movie. He turned me down with the reason that he had plans to go out to eat with his son who is moving in a month. I dont know if this was his nice way of saying no way or if its honest. At this point I am clueless as to how to proceed in getting him to notice me or take any interest in me. Of course the only time i ever see him is in class or in his office if I need help on an assignment and of course i never take the time to dress up for school so if I did it would be totally weird. I tend to dress comfortably for classes including no makeup, so what do i do now?