teeroze2004

Okay, I have a little problem and I need some advice. I am 36 years old and have always had a phenominal sex life with my hubby. We have been together for 14 years now and were doing great until my 36th b-day last October. Up until then my hubby could bring me to orgasm thru oral in a minute or less. And I could get myself off in under 3 minutes sans any toys or between 1 and 3 minutes using a toy. After my 36th, it seemed to become more difficult to achieve orgasm thru clitoral stimulation. My hubby blames it on my increased use of toys and says that I've "de-sensitized" my clitoris. I masturbate pretty often (4+ times a week) I've tried using "Viva cream" and a few other creams, lotions or gels but to no avail and often with worsening results. Should I consult my Dr. about this? The desire is still there just the sensation that is missing. I can sometimes achieve orgasm now but it takes forever and seems "forced" as well as "Weak" and not really worth the effort. Am I unique in this problem? Can anyone help me?

Hi! I too am new to the boards and will not even try to pretend to know any answers to anything. I agree with alot that Mikayla wrote. My hubby and I had similar problems when our first child was born. He finally confessed (after a lot of shouting that I DO NOT recommend) that he felt like I had pushed him aside when our daughter was born and he felt neglected, jealous and undesired each time I told him "not tonight honey, I'm exhausted from taking care of the baby all day". After hearing that or variations of that phrase over the course of several months, he finally stopped trying and started to become bitter. I finally gave my baby over to a relative for 3 days and devoted my time 24 hours a day into showing him how much he means to me things got noticably better and we've been together now for 13 years! I wish you luck! teeroze2004