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I am concerned that you, poor dear, are missing out on such an important emotional gift. Especially because that gift should be regularly opened and can go on and on for a young woman. Does your partner, do you, create the passion playground with a shared timetable. Do you take the time for yourself. Have you learned through self stimulation on your own how to achieve the big "O." Does it help to take a warm bath/shower and lay back and slowly touch and caress your entire body until you await the next sensual move with anticipation and feel every brush, touch, actually hear your heart beat and your temperature raise. I would guess that if you remember that happening before in your successful climaxes you might discover some common elements. Did you have a timeable? Short windows of opportunity can cause that clock to loudly tick in your head making it a race to beat the clock! Take the time to pamper yourself young one, I'm sure that you are beautiful; but do you feel your sexual side with confidence and take that appreciation and accentuate it? Sprinkle a bit of powder, splash a bit of perfume. Increase yourself image by trying on new clothes, lingerie items that create the right mood. First in you, do you feel free to fantasize to add to an experience? Fantacy can create that desire. A mental image of exceptional sexual experiences that gets you that orgasm can help in relationships.Fantacy images can return your mind to focus enough to calm a frantic, anxious, nervous moment that can distract your ability to get full satisfaction. Relax, sensualize your environment ( music, toys, sexy items to wear, candles), unplug the phone for the evening, slowly feel the pleasure of your body with different sensations, tease your pleasure spots. Feel the way your body reacts to each touch, bring yourself to the edge, slow the heat down and enjoy the calm excitement still waiting for more! Go on, bring the craving to a new height. Stop! Drink something cool, call an admirer to flirt with on the phone, admire yourself in the mirror for how sexy you look and feel right now. Draw upon the type of fantacy you would desire and immerse all your senses in feeling the fire of your body. By now you should be so hot and your only intent is the physical pleasure that you can trigger! Thoughts racing with fantacy lovers, your touch for tease, adding pleasure with more direct pressure, letting go to reach that orgasm that will leave you wet, sensitive, still feeling ripples, knowing that it was good. Knowing that...why don't you do it again.

I have to put something in about the comment of using emotions to suggest sexual behavior. I have been around the block and maybe with maturity I have found that requiring acts for validation of true love are controlling and childish! Some women don't at all, some every sex encounter, some only when carried away with the moment, some will take it into their mouth and spit it out. Guess what! I have been lucky to have been given all and any of this type of attention. Why? Because I will allow the woman to decide how far...I will be accepting of the way. Like any sexual encounter I have had I pass on compliments whether we have earth-shaking sex or less. We all need to reinforce the "giving" of whatever gifts we recieve. Offering suggestions for more pleasure are usually a neccesary help in sexual encounters. Requiring certain acts is something we want...should we selfishly demand it as proof! Is our partner free to please on natural urges and desires? Ask yourself. Did you ever get forced to perform, said no and wasn't heard, felt used later? Would you allow yourself to continue the relationship? I don't now...when I was young the will to please often left me vunerable to accepting demands. I learned serviant love, I allowed for my self-esteem to be degraded by the lengths and acts surrendered. How many tricks to please my Master? Give what you feel, no proving anything through pressure! Tomorrow will tell you if the new experience was pleasurable and erotic through the way you fell towards that partner... If something doesn't allow the same excitement to sex for the next encounter then your answer is evident! Speak up or your relationship will be less than free and open. Try some variation; surprise a lover with some new erotism, take the focus off the technique they demand. I've found that the rush in exciting them in a new unpredictable way balances the sex act back to reciprocation without running a prepared script