hi lee i just put a similar question on the poll and stress played a MAJOR part for me i was taken on to many other people stress and plus being married and a mother took its toll on me so took the advice from tootimid and my husband and i started decreasing my phone calls,putting the kids to bed a little earlier,and just relax with my husband. and myself ( mikayla suggested) and it help my husband and i didnt do anything sexual for a couple of days just touch,caress no stimulation and we talk the problem i was having out together and it really help me so take the Advice from tootimd it helps and share with your wife lee it really did help me