I find it degrading for a couple reasons. One is because I simply don't see it as being any fun, and don't really understand much why most people would. But, if other guys need to do it and their partner doesn't mind, go for it. Secondly, I find it degrading because it seems more like something women do because they are pressured into doing it rather than because it is a personal choice they make between themselves and their lover. My wife doesnt' want my semen in her mouth. I find that choice perfectly acceptable, and I'll honor it as long as she feels that way. I'm not going to pressure her to change her mind, I don't want her to do it out of any guilt, and I'm not going to find a prostitute just so I can have someone swallow my ejaculate. It's not that I find it a dirty or obscene practice. If she had chosen to take my semen, spit or swallow, I would have accepted that too. It doesn't mean it's degrading in all cases, but I sure as hell want to make sure my wife doesn't find something to be demeaning before I ask her to participate in it. Secondly, I personally wouldn't want semen all over my face. That being the case, I can understand why any woman I may be with wouldn't want it either. I don't really see my semen as being the fruits of my lovemaking. Instead, I tend to go with the pleasure we both have, and the bond we strengthen as we give each other these many pleasures (in many ways). Although my semen may feel great on her body as it makes her slippery, I personally prefer regular lubricants and massage oils where I get a better choice over the tastes and smells. That's just my preference. You can obviously have your own. Yes, the porn industry does cause a lot of these actions to seem demeaning with their 'money shots' and by advertising sex as power. The problem with that is that it allows these actions to be accepted into some of the real relationships of real people. People coerce and drug (alcohol included) other people into having sex and think it's acceptable. I'm just tired of seeing all the crap, whether in pornographic material, or in media that is more available to our younger society members, that promotes sex as an acceptable means of showing off power or gender superiority. Does this mean I don't like porn? No. I and my wife both enjoy it, we just tend to stick to material where all parties involved seem to be enjoying themselves, instead of scenes where a woman is cringing as a guy sprays her face. I don't care what choice each person makes in their own situations as long as it is they get the chance to make their own choice. I don't want my partner to ever think that she isn't my equal. So, I like to make sure she's ok with everything before we try it, and after we try it. We're both very open as far as our sexuality goes, and will try a lot of things, talk about them, and decide together whether or not we'd like to try it again. If something completely blows my mind, she'll probably want to try it again just as much as I will, and vice versa when something takes her to a new level of pleasure. Neither of us found her taking my cum into her mouth, spit or swallow, to be very appealing. We tried it, we decided it wasn't for us, and we're happy to
