Hi There, I just came across your site and must tell you I have learned a ton already. Thank you!!!! My wife and I have been married for almost 9 years, and have 2 beautiful children. My wife has always been more open about sex and always had a higher sex drive then me. A few years ago I had an operation so I could stop taking some medication and since then I have noticed that I am always "in the mood" so to say. So now I am the one with the higher sex drive. Since I wasn't that experienced, I tend to finish fast during intercourse, much to my dismay . I have tried the start and stop technique (without much success) to try and learn how to last longer. I have to say that I am not overly well endowed (maybe a side effect of the medication since I was taking it before puberty and through my teens and twenties and I know of some other side effects that I have suffered from) but I have learned to compensate with my fingers and tongue, I mention that because I realize sometimes I lack sexual confidence. Since my wife and I do not have much time to go multiple rounds between the sheets (being full time parents, both of us working full time jobs and running a business on the side) I am looking for tips or techniques I can try or we can try (as she is willing to help in what ever way possible) to help me improve my stamina. Do you think this could be a medical condition that I should see a doctor about (if you think a doctor, what kind? a urologist????) I am able to last much longer when she is giving me a blowjob or a handjob or I am going solo. It is just the fact that when we are in the act of penetration that I don't seem able to control myself. It is almost as if as soon as I touch her warm, wet, silkiness that I am ready to explode. Our forplay session are great in that I can make her climax or get right to that point before penetration so we can finish together but it would be wonderful if I could last longer so we both get better enjoyment. Please help with any tips or suggestions. Thanks for any help or guidance you might be able to provide with.