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Hi We dont use condoms but have both been tested for stds and are clear before that we always used them. I dont think lubrication is a problem if anything i have too much naturally, I think the skin is cracked, it could be due to us being a bit more vigorous but to be honest I dont enjoy sex any other way we always start trying romantic love making and end up the complete opposite. He isnt particularly large really, Its a bit like having carpet burn I sometimes think the problem is i get too wet? I suppose I havent seen a doctor because i keep thinking well it goes after a couple of days, I find it hard to visit when i barely know the doctor in question and they start asking questions about my vagina! but i guess as you say mikayla I cant just leave it Thanks for all the help guys

I know we have to be sent by a nurse but that only happens if you have a serious problem. I have asked but apparently they dont refer you until your developed enough... I thought I would be! I will ask a doctor its just its kind of awkward, its not like with a gyno where you see the same person every time and last time i went and was checked out by a doctor she kept making jokes and complimenting me on having good pelvic muscle.... I would rather not go....

Well we dont see each other in the week just at weekends so when we do have sex it is rather enthusiastic. I dont think I need lube though if anything I think I could do with being drier. The thing is I dont have a gyno as Im 24 and in England we dont get registered until 25.

Hi This one's a bit embarrassing but my problem is that under my vaginal opening after sex I get very sore skin. It feels a little rough and stings like god knows what to the touch. I didnt used to have the problem but now if we have sex more than twice in two days I cant do some positions such as I can sit on him it hurts too much. Is this just dry skin or do I have another problem? after a day or two (without sex) its no longer painful. Anyone know what it is? Thanks for any help you could give Iso

Ok So here 's the issue, When I first started seeing my partner we were very very into sex probably for the first year the issue is more and more the sex has gone downhill he is trying but Im just not feeling anything compared to what I used to, infact sometimes I must admit I get actively bored.... Its not like we're not adventurous because we definately are we try lots of new things in bed but its like recently he cant get it right and i am less and less up for it. The other night when I convinced myself it would be better he got distracted by the bed squeeking and our dog barking and said we should leave it! and went to sleep! The other this is that he has stopped taking care of himself, we have always been into fitness and being toned and before we went on holiday this year he said he would make an effort. So I did too and am proud to say Im considerably more toned - only thing is he didnt actually bother to do anything which is disapointing as I thought it would help me find him more sexy and get more out of our sex life. And now Im sort of resenting the fact he hasnt done it and I have its like I want to be as sexy as possible for him but he wont return the favour. Anyway (sorry for the rambling) I tried to talk to him about it but he kept throwing phrases at me like 'this is the first Ive heard of it' and 'does that mean you have been faking it' as well as 'whats changed' and 'you seem like you enjoy it to me' following that was a high defensive which I can understand I am effectively telling him he isnt as good anymore. But the thing is how am I meant to approach any of this truthfully without hurting his feelings and get a result? Please help I feel like its making me more tempermental in our relationship sorry for the rambling Iso

Well Im English from Oxford and I have to say I find men with an English Oxford accent sexy !!! although lets face it American and Australian and Irish are also very high on the list. Iso

I can relate to this one, I havent let my partner cum in my mouth because my ex tasted bad (Im pretty sure that was just him for the record) but i cant seem to let go and let it happen, he doesnt really have all that many sexual fantasies and i have lots anyway cumming in my mouth or on my breasts is his only thing and I feel totally selfish for not giving him his fantasy when he gives me mine, sorry to hijack the post but is there really no obligation for me to 'return the favour'

Ok well i just posted a topic on this but I LOVE the wiggle wand, its cheap it comes in lots of pretty colours its a brilliant clit stimulator and is my old reliable for a good orgasm. You can use it inside and out but I just use it as an external bullet, it was one of my first vibes and i still reach for it, its almost predictable I want that one when my partner reaches in the draw! Hope that helps Iso

I love my wiggle wand but as expected its worn out and lost its life 'sniff' its my old reliable and practically the only way i have a good orgasm. I also have a rampant rabbit vibe and a couple of others but the wand is my absolute favorite. My question is if someone has it and loved it as much as i do, did you ever find anything better, like the new and improved wiggle wand (they dont make them but i wish they did) or just a toy you think beats it Thanks Iso

Sorry to hear of your ex wife you must have be a very strong and brave person. Incidently I did start to write a book about my experiences but I always get a few pages into it and dismiss it or delete it perhaps I should take the time to complete it. I will let you kno0w how it goes. Thank you for all your kind advice Iso x

Hi sorry i havent replied sooner my partner has been home for a while and he doesnt know i posted this as a topic. He does know about my past abuse, he is actually very good with it and supported me through counselling and wakes me up from nightmares he's a very loving man as said before Im just finding it challenging to relax into sex. I suppose I just have to hope I get over my nerves its not that i feel like he will abuse me i know he's not the same man but i naturally become nervous like an automatic reaction. I have suggested not drinking before sex now I think it will work I hope it wil I'll let you know. Thanks for the support Isox

He is very fit slim no medical problems we know of. We generally spend 10-15 mins on foreplay and 20 mins to an hour actual intercourse although he is 24 we are a young couple the last few times we have had sex we did drink before hand...maybe this had some effect? unfortunately due to his work we only see each other at weekends, we're working on getting a place so we can be together more. I am doing kegals but I have never had an orgasm with him from any kind of stimulation, I put not having one during foreplay down to being abused when i was 16 my boyfriend was older and somewhat forced 'foreplay' incidenced upon me I have a particular problem with oral. So we tend to take vibrators to bed. I think perhaps it would be a good idea to have sex this time without drinking before hand, we rarely do but the last incidences have been after drinking maybe it would help? Thanks Howard

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We've been together for well over a year and i know it isnt an excitement factor because we are always so experimental and Im forever dressing up for him and buying new underware. The other night I put suspenders on I know thats his ultimate fantasy and I could tell he was really turned on its just I know it sounds weird but he wasnt as long, even he's noticed it and i know thats a big thing for a man to admit. I really do mean he doesnt get as long I mean he's just as hard but not as long and yeah mikayla sometimes it doesnt feel like he's inside me.... he said to me last night is it me or is it not growing as much and i had to agree because ive noticed it over the last month or two , could it be medical? thanks guys Iso

Sensitive topic I know but my partner was always one of those grower not a shower men. Anyway he used to quite happily make if from what i should say is all of 4 inches maybe less to 7 when erect. recently he's been getting just as hard but not as long and the sex is just not doing anything for me, the other night we were on the floor and I was wondering if i should vacuum more often..... I have to say I was instantly unimpressed the first time i got him naked I couldnt help it but once hard I instantly took it all back because of the difference. Now its not there and im not enjoying sex, I dont even really want to have it because it feels like a lot of work for nothing. Im actually quite worried we've been together for a long while and I love him a lot but sex is so important is there any possible reason for this change? I know he hasnt been doing anything differently and its definately not that he doesnt get as turned on. I just dont understand it Iso