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Hi We dont use condoms but have both been tested for stds and are clear before that we always used them. I dont think lubrication is a problem if anything i have too much naturally, I think the skin is cracked, it could be due to us being a bit more vigorous but to be honest I dont enjoy sex any other way we always start trying romantic love making and end up the complete opposite. He isnt particularly large really, Its a bit like having carpet burn I sometimes think the problem is i get too wet? I suppose I havent seen a doctor because i keep thinking well it goes after a couple of days, I find it hard to visit when i barely know the doctor in question and they start asking questions about my vagina! but i guess as you say mikayla I cant just leave it Thanks for all the help guys

I know we have to be sent by a nurse but that only happens if you have a serious problem. I have asked but apparently they dont refer you until your developed enough... I thought I would be! I will ask a doctor its just its kind of awkward, its not like with a gyno where you see the same person every time and last time i went and was checked out by a doctor she kept making jokes and complimenting me on having good pelvic muscle.... I would rather not go....

Well we dont see each other in the week just at weekends so when we do have sex it is rather enthusiastic. I dont think I need lube though if anything I think I could do with being drier. The thing is I dont have a gyno as Im 24 and in England we dont get registered until 25.

Hi This one's a bit embarrassing but my problem is that under my vaginal opening after sex I get very sore skin. It feels a little rough and stings like god knows what to the touch. I didnt used to have the problem but now if we have sex more than twice in two days I cant do some positions such as I can sit on him it hurts too much. Is this just dry skin or do I have another problem? after a day or two (without sex) its no longer painful. Anyone know what it is? Thanks for any help you could give Iso

Ok So here 's the issue, When I first started seeing my partner we were very very into sex probably for the first year the issue is more and more the sex has gone downhill he is trying but Im just not feeling anything compared to what I used to, infact sometimes I must admit I get actively bored.... Its not like we're not adventurous because we definately are we try lots of new things in bed but its like recently he cant get it right and i am less and less up for it. The other night when I convinced myself it would be better he got distracted by the bed squeeking and our dog barking and said we should leave it! and went to sleep! The other this is that he has stopped taking care of himself, we have always been into fitness and being toned and before we went on holiday this year he said he would make an effort. So I did too and am proud to say Im considerably more toned - only thing is he didnt actually bother to do anything which is disapointing as I thought it would help me find him more sexy and get more out of our sex life. And now Im sort of resenting the fact he hasnt done it and I have its like I want to be as sexy as possible for him but he wont return the favour. Anyway (sorry for the rambling) I tried to talk to him about it but he kept throwing phrases at me like 'this is the first Ive heard of it' and 'does that mean you have been faking it' as well as 'whats changed' and 'you seem like you enjoy it to me' following that was a high defensive which I can understand I am effectively telling him he isnt as good anymore. But the thing is how am I meant to approach any of this truthfully without hurting his feelings and get a result? Please help I feel like its making me more tempermental in our relationship sorry for the rambling Iso

Well Im English from Oxford and I have to say I find men with an English Oxford accent sexy !!! although lets face it American and Australian and Irish are also very high on the list. Iso

I can relate to this one, I havent let my partner cum in my mouth because my ex tasted bad (Im pretty sure that was just him for the record) but i cant seem to let go and let it happen, he doesnt really have all that many sexual fantasies and i have lots anyway cumming in my mouth or on my breasts is his only thing and I feel totally selfish for not giving him his fantasy when he gives me mine, sorry to hijack the post but is there really no obligation for me to 'return the favour'

Ok well i just posted a topic on this but I LOVE the wiggle wand, its cheap it comes in lots of pretty colours its a brilliant clit stimulator and is my old reliable for a good orgasm. You can use it inside and out but I just use it as an external bullet, it was one of my first vibes and i still reach for it, its almost predictable I want that one when my partner reaches in the draw! Hope that helps Iso

I love my wiggle wand but as expected its worn out and lost its life 'sniff' its my old reliable and practically the only way i have a good orgasm. I also have a rampant rabbit vibe and a couple of others but the wand is my absolute favorite. My question is if someone has it and loved it as much as i do, did you ever find anything better, like the new and improved wiggle wand (they dont make them but i wish they did) or just a toy you think beats it Thanks Iso

Sorry to hear of your ex wife you must have be a very strong and brave person. Incidently I did start to write a book about my experiences but I always get a few pages into it and dismiss it or delete it perhaps I should take the time to complete it. I will let you kno0w how it goes. Thank you for all your kind advice Iso x

Hi sorry i havent replied sooner my partner has been home for a while and he doesnt know i posted this as a topic. He does know about my past abuse, he is actually very good with it and supported me through counselling and wakes me up from nightmares he's a very loving man as said before Im just finding it challenging to relax into sex. I suppose I just have to hope I get over my nerves its not that i feel like he will abuse me i know he's not the same man but i naturally become nervous like an automatic reaction. I have suggested not drinking before sex now I think it will work I hope it wil I'll let you know. Thanks for the support Isox

He is very fit slim no medical problems we know of. We generally spend 10-15 mins on foreplay and 20 mins to an hour actual intercourse although he is 24 we are a young couple the last few times we have had sex we did drink before hand...maybe this had some effect? unfortunately due to his work we only see each other at weekends, we're working on getting a place so we can be together more. I am doing kegals but I have never had an orgasm with him from any kind of stimulation, I put not having one during foreplay down to being abused when i was 16 my boyfriend was older and somewhat forced 'foreplay' incidenced upon me I have a particular problem with oral. So we tend to take vibrators to bed. I think perhaps it would be a good idea to have sex this time without drinking before hand, we rarely do but the last incidences have been after drinking maybe it would help? Thanks Howard

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We've been together for well over a year and i know it isnt an excitement factor because we are always so experimental and Im forever dressing up for him and buying new underware. The other night I put suspenders on I know thats his ultimate fantasy and I could tell he was really turned on its just I know it sounds weird but he wasnt as long, even he's noticed it and i know thats a big thing for a man to admit. I really do mean he doesnt get as long I mean he's just as hard but not as long and yeah mikayla sometimes it doesnt feel like he's inside me.... he said to me last night is it me or is it not growing as much and i had to agree because ive noticed it over the last month or two , could it be medical? thanks guys Iso

Sensitive topic I know but my partner was always one of those grower not a shower men. Anyway he used to quite happily make if from what i should say is all of 4 inches maybe less to 7 when erect. recently he's been getting just as hard but not as long and the sex is just not doing anything for me, the other night we were on the floor and I was wondering if i should vacuum more often..... I have to say I was instantly unimpressed the first time i got him naked I couldnt help it but once hard I instantly took it all back because of the difference. Now its not there and im not enjoying sex, I dont even really want to have it because it feels like a lot of work for nothing. Im actually quite worried we've been together for a long while and I love him a lot but sex is so important is there any possible reason for this change? I know he hasnt been doing anything differently and its definately not that he doesnt get as turned on. I just dont understand it Iso

Ok me and my bloke have tried having sex slowly or sensually and it just doesnt happen we can never manage it and it always turns into fast hard sex. I dont have a problem with it infact its what we both enjoy..only problem is we're feeling limited positions wise, really we've only found ''doggy style'' or sex from behind gives us the ability to have sex how we like it we've also tried having my legs behind his head but I cant stay like that for more than 15 mins without it aching. So my question is does anyone know of any other positions we could use to get what we want from sex? Thanks Iso8 x

Thanks again for the responses... it resulted in the best sex we've had together it lasted an 2 hours 1 and a half hours just sex!. and we were probably in about 4 or 5 different positions, weirdly I got back from horse riding and it sparked off normally he eyes up my knee high boots and the tight jodpers and we leave it there but this time I kissed him and ran my hands down his back and it turned into sex it was a lot more passionate and I concentrated more on what i was doing and feeling Ive never had an orgasm before and I didnt have one this time but i did definately get a little flip in my stomach. So i think more of the same is in order! Thanks so much for the suggestions i was a lot more relaxed and got into a more nothing to lose mood. hopefully it will continue to get better ! thanks Iso

Thanks everyone so many suggestions! I do do thing like wear heels and run my hands down him but it doesnt feel like enough really, I will try and use my hips more I think its just when I do try his are a bit overpowering and i give up! and Howard I will definately be reading through your post again.. I'll see what i can try out tonite! thank you XxX

Ok.... well here's the thing... Ive had experience with more than one man with foreplay and when it came to sex i waited until i was with someone i expect to be with for a long time. here's my wuestion. Me and some girlfriends were sitting chatting about sex positions and the best one's we knew of / invented! I mentioned I hadnt had an orgasm from sex yet and were there any positions good for that? because really I said, the only time I ever do anything is when Im on top. to this my friend exclaimed 'what all the other times you just lie there!' I had to answer yes because to be honest what else should i be doing?? missionary Im lying down, from behind well im just leaning on something or keeping balance I mean I hardly participate...I run my hands down his back and things and touch him but thats it so my question.. Am I meant to be doing something else? what do you do but just lie there? thanks Iso

One last thing I started taking the pill 10 days ago on the first day of my period ....well Im still on my period Im usually only on for 4 days. did this happen to anyone else? oh and also i know last time my when does it start working question was a difficult one well it starts working from ur first pill but its best to wait a few days any answers or experiences the same on the period front... this is the longest its ever been for me... Iso

If a woman just starting the pill begins taking them on the first day of her menstrual cycle (first day of red bleeding), she will have pregnancy protection from the very first pill. If a woman begins taking the pill at another time in her menstrual cycle, she must use a different form of contraception for seven days Ah you see i read this ^^^ maybe the difference is when you start on the pill in your cycle? Iso

Thanks for all your responses! its amazing to have so many!! one Question mikayla, my girlfriends told me take the pill for a week and then you can start having sex... I feel a lot happier knowing that the pill has protected you guys with nothing else i guess when you think about what the pill does, it must work! I think its just because im so used to condoms! thanks guys xx

Ok so finally im on the pill, Previously ive always just used condoms mainly because i didnt like the idea of putting artificial hormones in me, but after 2condom failures I decided to take the pill. Been on it for a week and i cant believe taking a pill protects me it seems so weird!! (I suppose because when you use a condom you can see that its worked or that it hasnt!!) So my partner asked me if we could have sex without the condom once. neither of us ever had before,( we checked for stds etc and we're both clear) I suppose my main worry is that will taking the pill every day really protect me enough to have sex without a condom?? ( I know that its not 100% but its more effective than condoms...) In the back of my head i keep thinking how can swallowing this tiny thing stop me getting pregnant? i suppose im after reassurance thanks Iso

yes it was the first one i bought but i cant say it did anything for me, maybe its just not for me! your review seemed pretty good but of course different things work for different people! iso x

http://www.bedtimeheaven.co.uk/product_det...asp?prodID=6130 It was this one that I tried I think your right Mikayla stimulation is it, I dont rate this vibe at all! let me know what you think? Iso