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Good article, Mikayla! My husband and I have used bondage-play for a long time.. not all that often, but when we do, it's so incredibly hot! I admit I prefer the submissive role, and Paolo prefers to be dominant, but we do switch occasionally. Restraint is wonderful. Having no choice in what is being done to you gives you glorious freedom to surrender to 'sinful' pleasure. Force fantasies, what have you. Mmm. We rarely need to use a safeword, but we have it: if either of us speaks the other's name, we stop, make eye contact, and jointly decide what will happen next. Contrived 'safewords' are silly... who can remember to say 'rumplestiltskin' when she's halfway between orgasm and death? But my husband's name.. I'll never forget; nor he mine. I agree about pain. Good sex is painless, but great sex always involves an element of pain. It may be a nipple pinched hard just before I cum, or perhaps a few sharp spanks on my ass just before he penetrates me, or simply the discomfort of having my wrists tied behind me while he fucks me missionary style. Most commonly, it's just the sensation of being stretched too much by his big cock that lights my fire. Anyway, good article. Maybe you'll get around to discussing gags in your follow-up!

Thank you, Howard. Your posts seem intelligent and sensitive. In short, as I wrote earlier, we're mostly spontaneous and rarely planned when it comes to anal sex. We just go with the flow. But there are certain roads we travel that we both know will end in anal intercourse.. it's hard to describe, but we both know the road signs, and we don't have to use words in those situations. Yes, I play with his anus sometimes. Usually when I'm giving him a blowjob and my mouth is getting tired, lol! I have learned that a one-finger massage of his prostate will pop his cork in short order.. unless I decide to tease it out a while!

Let's face it.. when you get past a certain age, especially if you've pushed a baby or three out your bottom end, things don't always work like they used to. A little bit of blood with bowel movements is not uncommon, especially after anal intercourse. You should have your doctor take a look, though, just to be sure there's nothing wrong up there. Hemorrhoids can be a problem, and polyps can be really bad. Ask your doctor, and if s/he suggests sigmoidoscopy, do it. You need to take good care of your bowels whether you're into anal sex or not. Get plenty of fiber, take a daily stool softener, and drink lots of water. Mild laxatives are ok every now and then, but I prefer an enema if things aren't working well. You shouldn't have much stool in your rectum at any time. The rectum is a passageway, not a holding tank. If you're worried about it, put a finger up your anus when you don't feel the urge to have a BM and if you can feel stool, you're not moving your bowels enough, or more likely you're ignoring your bowel's messages to empty. NEVER resist the urge to have a bowel movement. Find a toilet and take care of business. Too many women are taught to resist their bowel urge when they're little girls, and life-long constipation is the result. I see a lot of these people (I'm a nurse).

Interesting replies. My husband and I have included anal in our lovemaking for quite a long time. Like most things with sex, there are cycles and evolutions. Sometimes anal is very "up front" with us, and we talk about it in and out of bed.. other times it just happens. Paolo seems to want it any time I do, so I guess he's more flexible. I became much more interested in having anal sex after I learned to have anal orgasms just from his cock thrusting in me. If he initiates anal play, it will usually be with a light touch on my anus while tonguing my pussy, and I'll let him know I want more with a moan or pushing down against his finger. When I want it (usually in the heat of the moment) I'll tell him I want his fingers or a vibe or his cock in my ass. What happens then is pretty much in his hands! I let him take charge, and I am rarely disappointed. We both like to read erotica, and anal erotica in particular always gets me in the mood to bend over for him. We are monogamous. We never use condoms. I treasure my husband's semen. Anal can be appetizer, entree, or dessert... As an appetizer, cunnilingus with fingers or a vibe in my ass gets my attention in a hurry! We use anal sex as a 'main dish' a lot when I have my period, but usually we reserve it for the second encounter of the evening, after I've had a lot of vaginal orgasms and I'm feeling really relaxed and sexy, and my husband's balls aren't quite so full. I really like DP in this situation, with a vibe in my ass and his cock in my pussy, and sometimes with a vibe on my clit as well (this is awesome for multiple orgasms), then he'll transition his cock into my ass for some deep & hard screwing. As for 'dessert'.. any time I can get him hard enough to penetrate me a third time, no matter what we've done in the previous two his third cum is always in my ass. Once we've made the commitment to anal intercourse, it's a done deal. It's hard to go back to vaginal or oral sex without breaking the mood to get all cleaned up again. Besides, my husband loves cumming in my ass, and I love it too. When he's getting ready to cum, his cock swells and hardens and he thrusts harder, which feels incredibly stimulating. I don't feel his cum spurting in me, but I can feel his cock throbbing and like Mikayla said knowing he's spilling a big hot load in my ass is incredibly erotic! Feeling him getting ready to cum gets me so hot I almost always cum when he does.

Absolutely! The best position for this is kneeling on the floor between his legs while he sits in an armchair. I like get my husband's full attention with a nice hot, wet blowjob, and when he's really into it and just about to boil over I'll slip a well-lubed finger up his ass. I have medium-long fingernails, but I'm really careful and I've never hurt him doing this (I used to wear a nonlatex glove, but a naked finger is much more sensuous for both of us). I use my middle finger with my palm turned towards me, and push it up as far as I can, then I press the finger forward to rub his prostate. I just gently massage from side to side. I don't have super-long fingers, but I can reach it easily this way. Sometimes I'll do this early in the encounter, but usually I'll surprise him when he's almost ready to cum. He says if he's on the verge of cumming when I do this to him, it pushes him over the edge and he cums his brains out... and the volume of semen he spurts is way more than with a blowjob alone. So ladies, if you love it when your man shoots a big tasty load in your mouth, you've got to try this.

I love the X position... we haven't done it in years, but I printed out your Top 20 article and read it with my husband, and we tried it again. Wow! I had forgotten how intensely this position hits my G-spot! The Lap Dance is fun, too, but you're right about needing to wear heels to get the angle right. Not that paolo minded!

billy... howard's advice is very good. Talk to your wife and let her know you'll start slow and take your time. She may need an extended period of ass-play with fingers/toys before she can even think of trying your cock. My first orgasm with anal stimulation occured during oral sex, and paolo (my husband) put the tip of one finger in my anus just before I came... and I was immediately addicted. Over months and months we introduced two fingers, then a vibrator, three fingers, then I finally realized I was more than ready for his cock, and it was wonderful. As for orgasms: I had my first vaginal orgasm when I was 17 and I can tell you that it is completely different from a clitoral orgasm. My first orgasms during anal play were clitoral orgasms, but with anal contractions that really intensified cumming for me. When we finally had full penetration anal intercourse it was much the same, but over time I've learned to cum from nothing but my husband's cock thrusting in my ass. It's a completely different kind of orgasm than vaginal or clitoral. I don't know how to explain it except that it's deeper and slower than a vaginal orgasm, and lasts a lot longer. Some women I know who love anal never have this kind of cum, tho, but have blistering cums with clitoral stimulation during anal sex. Every girl is different. Let us know what your wife's orgasms are like when you finally do it!

My husband is also very well-endowed (almost 9 inches long and really thick), and i had the same qualms about anal at first. I love my his bigness. Size definitely matters LOL! I know other women who agree that a big cock feels way better for regular sex, so you're not alone. Only after I had learned to cum from anal sex did I realize that his big cock is even nicer in my ass. My anal first time was with cunnilingus, and he put his finger in my anus just as I was about to cum. Talk about explosive! I was addicted immediately. We used fingers & toys in my ass for a long time before I finally asked him to put his cock in my ass. I think I could've done it sooner than I did, but having lots of time to learn that bigger objects felt good in my ass definitely made my first anal intercourse easier. The first time we had anal intercourse we really took our time. We talked thru it, and although I could only take about half his length the first time, it felt really good. My husband stroked my clit and we both came really fast. We found that with lots of clit and anal play my ass relaxed completely and I was able to take his entire cock on our second or third try.