Amethyst

I'm curious, how many straight guys are into their partner playing with their backdoor? My boyfriend has hinted a few times about him wanting me to try some stuff on him, but I'm nervous that I'll hurt him or encourage him to play with me back there! (which is not always one of my favorite things) Also, doesn't anyone find it kind of gross? Just wondering! (and I'm not trying to offend anyone, I just want to learn more about it!)

I purchased the "Opulent 4 1/2" Vibrator Compact Smooth" earlier this month for $11.95. While its mechanics do just fine as a vibrator (it gets the job done), the "high gloss sheen" started wearing off immediately! I've owned it less than a month and have used it about a dozen times, and it is left with blotchy spots all over where the top paint is gone! Since it was $11.95 I am over trying to return it for a refund, but in the future I'll stay away from the lacquer cote massagers. And another FYI, get a waterproof vibrator, non-waterproof ones (like this one) are so hard to clean! Bodily fluids stick in the screw-on cap where you insert the batteries! Hope this helped you from making a bad buy! This is the one I bought: http://shop.tootimid.com/index.asp?PageAct...ROD&ProdID=3383

Thank you so much for your quick replies! I appreciate everyone's advice very much. But I will say that it is very hard to explain our whole situation to strangers online. So let me clear some things up. We are not living together, but see each other almost every day. Also, I don't think I worded my post very accurately in portraying my boyfriend. I can definitely see why some of you may think he may not feel the same toward me as I do him, because of my post. But I honestly know that he loves me just as much as I him. And I hate to sound like a naive little kid on here because I'm 18 and everyone else on here is married or more experienced, but I really do feel like he and I are in a mature relationship and have a very close emotional bond. But thank you so much for your concern. And answering howard4570, I've been on the pill since we started dating (half of that time we used condoms as well, but now only using the pill). So I don't think fear of pregnancy is a factor. And I really don't believe he feels guilty about sex. And I am 100% positive he is not cheating on me. But I DO know one of the reasons (which he has mentioned a few times) is his fear that our relationship will turn into an only physical one (which happened with his last girlfriend). So sometimes he mentions at the beginning of the night that he just wants to watch a movie or relax, spending time together. I am totally fine with that, I'm not saying we have to go at it like rabbits, i love spending quality non-sexual time with him as well. But I have had discussions with him numerous times trying to calm his insecurities. I let him know how much I care about him and that I would never let sex get between us, I believe great sex in addition to our emotional relationship will only strengthen our love for one another. These talks have seemed to help, but still, a lot of the time, he's just not in the mood. Last time we had sex and played with my new vibrator, I mentioned maybe we should get another so we can use them on eachother at the same time, instead of passing it back and forth, and he seemed ok with the idea. And later we were talking about possibly getting one of the rings with the bullets on them. I think he likes the idea of getting toys, as long as they aren't bigger than him and I don't have a better time with them than I do with him, lol. So once I get some extra cash I think I'll get a few. Either looking online with him, or going to a local adult store with him--so I can get his input on what he wants and how comfortable he is. (I've also noticed that he likes using the vibrator on me because it's easier for him to get me off and he doesn't end up with a hand cramp, haha) But does anyone have any idea why alot of the time he's just not in the mood? I start playing with him or giving him oral (which he loves when he's horny) but he sometimes just asks me to stop because he's not in the mood. And we have only had sex twice in the same day about 3 times--ever, and after the second time he says that his penis is sore. So when we play or have sex, after he goes, its over for the day (or maybe few days). Any insight? I don't think he has any medical stuff going on. It's more like he doesn't have enough stamina? But anyway, sorry for the long post, I'm just trying to give you guys as much of the picture as possible so I can get more accurate advice. Thanks for reading!

I've been with my guy for almost 8 months. We have a very strong friendship and loving relationship. We are so in love. And he is one of the sweetest, funniest, and most caring guy I have ever been with. (and he's the one i lost my virginity to). I have always been a very sexual person, but I have waited for the right guy to share that with. Finally I had found him and was excited to start experiencing all the things I've fantasized about. We've had some awesome sex. But the thing is, we probably have sex maybe 5 times a week, MAXIMUM. Usually, it's about 3 or 4. I just feel like i need SO MUCH MORE than that. I am always fired up and ready to go. I feel like I could take him a few times a day, everyday. This is a topic we've brought up many times, and I can tell he's been trying to initiate things more. But I am usually the one who has to PERSUADE him to have sex or at least fool around. He's a healthy 18 year old guy who, when in the mood, is VERY into sex and all the pleasures it brings. I just don't know how to get him in the mood more often... I've been trying all sorts of things, but sex seems to just be based on when HE wants it. The times when i do persuade him to do anything, he seems totally not into it and one of us ends up stopping. This is getting very frustrating. I bought a small vibrator online earlier this month and that has seemed to help a little. I was nervous at first because we had purchased a larger vibrator from a store a few months back and he had gotten jealous so we ended up throwing it away. But this one is 4 1/2 inches and is smooth. He seems to enjoy using it on me and when i use it on him, but I am afraid to purchase anything else because I know he gets sensitive about being "replaced" by toys. (which i constantly remind him would never happen because I prefer him much more). Anyway, I'm not exactly sure what point I'm trying to make...I seem to just be rambling. But please, any advice on how i could give our sex life a boost?

Before i even knew what masturbation was (i'm talkin preschool days), i would sit on the carpet with my legs bent and resting on the floor on either side of me while i rubbed my crotch away to "that good feeling". I did that for years until i discovered i could get the same effect from humping stuffed animals and pillows. Between then and my early teens i would lay on my stomach and rub my hand on my crotch. I later moved onto using my fingers, and finally discovered new uses for various hairbrush handles, produce, and anything else i could think of.... my, i was a horny child. These days, (when I don't have access to my boyfriend) i use my 4 1/2 inch vibrator (small but mighy), or of course my trusty hand.