timidtwo

I have seen a few in various places, but that is something my wife will have to decide to get on her own. I have always wondered if she'd like them. The last ones I saw were a dual-ball set, connected to each other in a soft touch coating, and their were "balls in the balls" that would make them vibrate as the woman moves... Are you familiar with what these are, Mikayla? Would you, or anyone else, also recommend those? I picked them up in my hands, and thought that they'd be something intriguing to have inserted in her while she's doing her everyday stuff during the day... It looks like the closest thing on here to what caught my eye recently is the "smart balls".

The previous post, posted twice... sorry! If a moderator will please delete this message, I edited it, down to this, to avoid being a "post hog".

Please read our post on "Toys are Good". We started "small" and worked our way "up". We were married for 12 years before we started using toys. My wife has commented on how the vibrators we've been using seem to "stretch" her a little bit. This WAS a bit uncomfortable for her, at first, but NOW, she is... WOW.... On fire when we use toys. I intentionally bought her vibrators that were as close to "my size" as possible. The toys are really close lengthwise, but the toys are a bit "thicker" around. She is getting used to them, (We have only owned "toys" for about a month now..) In fact, she went from saying, "I want the REAL thing, or NO-thing, at all!!!!!" to "Where's the vibra-thing? I want it again!" There was another time I was using a vibrator on her, and took it away from her for a moment to adjust my position. She told me, "Knock it off!!! If you stop using that thing one more time like that, I am going to KILL you." Of course, she wouldn't have really "killed" me, but that shows you how powerful toys can be. Toys are good. As I mentioned in other posts, the use of a vibrator on her during foreplay makes for an incredibly more sensational experience for me, as her husband when it is "my turn" to enter after the vibrator has had "its turn". My wife was a virgin when we got married. I was not. To some people, not being a virgin is some sort of badge of honor. To me, it was not. I was not proud of my prior "experience". She used to ask me how she compares to my previous experiences... That is NOT a fair position to put yourself in... You're doing the right thing by waiting! The only upside to not being a virgin when I married her, was that she once told me, "I am glad you were not a virgin before we had sex. I wouldn't have known what to do, and I am glad you did." Now, how's that for a quandry???? She said that she liked that I wasn't a virgin, but she was also scared that she didn't compare well with my previous experiences. That's a great way to screw a man up mentally!!! Anyway... Use the toy to know yourself better, just like the other guy said. Then, if you are fortunate enough to find another virgin to marry/have a first time encounter with, you don't have to worry about "comparisons", then you will 'know' what to do, and what to have him do to you, when you're getting started pleasuring each other! If you need to, go find a smaller, sleeker model, and enjoy! Then, work your way up to the Jack Rabbit Pearl. You went from "walking down the road", to driving a Mack Truck!!! Driving a small car first, might make it easier to drive that "Mack Truck" later. We started by using a little bullet sized vibrator for foreplay, to a THICK full sized soft touch vibrator, down to a small sleek and slender vibrator, and now have the BendiBeaver, too... If I would have bought her the BendiBeaver first, she'd have been freaked out, and we would be missing out on what has become a huge blessing to our marriage bed! SEX TOYS! Sincerely, The "J" (of J and K)

As you can probably tell, we were quite the opposite, mikayla. She was afraid it would take something away! Toys have definitely added to the bedroom for us. As a man who is fully and completely committed to pleasing my wife, in ANYWAY that I possibly can, I will use whatever means necessary to fulfill my marital duty. I can not get enough of seeing and hearing her in pure sexual bliss! If that means me buying and using toys on her, then so it is! I am convinced that using toys on her, does MORE for me psychologically, than it does for her, physically. That is saying a lot, because I have seen what they have done to her physically! They've turned her animalistic passion from "ON" to "OVERDRIVE"! She was the one who used to say, "I want the REAL thing, or NO-thing". "WAS", is the keyword... she loves using toys, now! I was always interested, but I must confess that I too was tied down by the thought that "good people" don't use those things, or shop for them either. After all, there is often pornography in those places... So I put it off, as I said, for over TWELVE YEARS!!! We don't do porn. That is too much for both of us. We've seen some, and 98% of what we have seen was just WAY too cheesy, and NOT appealing to us. What we've seen, also seemed overly disrespectful of women and relationships in general. So, I buy what our consciences will allow, and do NOT buy things neither of us are interested in. How we opened up to the "toy world" is this: I was walking through "WAL-MART" and saw a funny labeled box of condoms on the shelf... I picked the box up and realized that it had a vibrating cock ring in it... I thought, "WOW, that is interesting!" I bought it, introduced it to the bedroom scene one night, and the rest, is history. Neither one of us liked that first purchase as a cock ring, it was annoying during intercourse, but using it as a vibrator on her clit during foreplay was a smash hit!!!! She loved it, I loved that she loved it, but it didn't take long, and the battery died on the disposable little thing. I didn't want her to be disappointed, because I knew that she got a lot out of it. So, I swallowed my pride, and went to a local sex shop and bought her a re-usable full size vibrator. I asked questions, (I am SURE, I must have been pale or completely blushed, because I was certain that, "She (the sales clerk) is going to think I am so sort of pervert, or freakazoid") She didn't think that, she made suggestions for and against certain toys based on what I told her, and as it is, the new vibrator was a big hit, too. (Yes, a much better hit than the little bullet sized one.) The first time we used the full sized vibrator after the battery croaked on the little one, she ASKED me, "Where's the vibra-thingy? I want to use it again!" I told her that the battery died, so I "had" to go out and buy her another one. I brought it out, and used it on her, and it worked magic in the sack! The one thing I now notice, is that, once she's ready for "ME", after being aroused by using the vibrator, there is a COMPLETELY different "feel" for me, while I am inside her! There must be an explanation, but anyway, I can certainly tell the difference between a 'non vibrated' arousal, and a 'vibrated' arousal when I am inside her! It must be the extra bloodflow inside her, or something after the vibrator does its job! Then, I was at work one night this summer, and I was talking to a friend of mine, who just graduated from a !!!!!SEMINARY!!!! and got her Master's degree in Marriage Counseling. "Somehow" we got on to the topic of "sex toys". Not a safe conversation "at work" if someone is to "overhear" your topic of choice, and you better REALLY trust the person you're talking to, but anyway... I admitted to having a toy for "K", and my friend informed me that part of marital counseling, even when done by "Christian" counselors, will often times encourage married couples to explore each other's likes and dislikes by (I think it was called) Sensory-Focus therapy. This means that both the husband and wife are expected to bring the other spouse all the way to orgasm WITHOUT intercourse! The penis and vagina can NOT come into contact, AT ALL! If it ends up that the use of "toys" is part of the process, then SO BE IT. The rationale behind that is, that toys don't do anything that you are not already trying to do with your hands and/or other body parts!!! That is, please your spouse in bed! If the toys can help you do it, then USE THEM!!! Just like there can be "misuses and abuses" of and with toys, there are misuses of food, cars, guns, money, power, etc.... Just because something can be misused or abused, does not, in and of itself, make the PRODUCT itself, a bad idea... nor does it mean that they should not be available! Reward the good stuff by purchasing it, and show your convictions about what you don't like by not buying them. If God wanted us to travel in "cars/trucks/vans/planes, etc..." then why weren't they part of creation? Last I checked, the first automobiles and planes have been around for only little more than a century! I don't hear very many people condeming modern modes of travel from the church world! In fact, I think they like modern travel! If we should not be able to use "toys" for sex, then maybe our families should just travel by foot, or on horses. Maybe we should only communicate by mouth and letters, not the internet, phones, TV, radio, etc.... NOT!!!! Trains, Planes and Automobiles (sorry, my apologies, to John Candy and Steve Martin) make travel better, more comfortable and more fun, why should our sexuality lag behind when technology can make it better, too? It should NOT lag behind... End of story! Sincerely, --- the "J" (of J and K) P.S. We used the new vibe tonight! EXQUISITE! The vibrating clit stim was fabulous, and the rotation of the beads in the shaft, about rolled her right out of bed! She had to ask me to stop, because it was TOO MUCH for her. It was sensory OVERLOAD (and a bit bigger than ME! ) BLUSH BLUSH... We WILL be using it again! The only downfall is that it is a bit NOISY, so you better make sure that you're windows are closed (don't want to offend the "innocent" neighbors) there are NO guests in the house, and the kids are SOUND to SLEEP!!!!

Just out of curiosity, we'd like to know about others who have faced the same thing we did!

For anyone out there who may be a bit timid about using toys, please take the following advice from us: Start small, then let your imagination run wild! My wife and I have been married for over 12 years. We have had a great sex life, but it definitely got predictable. We were and are still madly in love, and the sex was still good! In August 2006, I introduced a small bullet sized vibrator to her one night, and that sent the night's "ritualistic" foreplay into magical realms! Once that disposable cheapy died out, I then bought her a full sized "soft G spot" vibrator that really made her motor purr! She still wasn't "too sure" about this new found venture, and would only let me use it ON her, but not IN her! (You know, "good" girls don't use stuff like that.... BUT it sure did feel good, so let's use it a "little bit".... ) Until the other night that is: I was using the vibrator ON her, and she couldn't take it anymore, she suprised me by intentionally sliding her butt down the bed, and getting the vibrator deep inside her! She then moved herself around, making the vibrator move IN and OUT of her for a few minutes, and I was amazed at how much she was enjoying this. From my vantage point, she's never been so "happy" in bed! She was turned on, and watching her be REALLY turned on, REALLY REALLY turned me on! , and it was the most adventurous and mind blowing sex we've had in a LONG LONG time. Last week, I took it upon myself to buy her another "toy" for her birthday. I haven't given it to her yet, but I will be tonight. We'll see how that goes!?!?! It is a Bendi-Beaver, with rotating shaft, and vibrating clit stim. I told the clerk that sold it to me at a local store about how she pulled herself onto the vibrator the other night for the first time, and LOVED it, (they wanted the information and asked for it!!! Then they did a great job of helping match me with the toys that would best "fit" us). The clerk informed me that if she loved that, she will NOT know what to do with herself once she starts using this! I certainly hope the clerk was right! Now, from unwilling to use toys, (her motto prior to this, was "The REAL thing, or NO-thing"....) We're now getting ready to use the Bendi Beaver! How's that for rapid progression in a six week period?!?! Sex Toys are not evil, They did NOT damage our marriage bed, They invigorated it, and made it MUCH better! The use of toys has rekindled and multiplied our (especially HER) libido to pre marriage levels and beyond! Now, since we were so scared to actually frequent a store like that, it took us TWELVE years to figure out what we were missing! Take advantage of the opportunity to use this company to buy from and discreetly ship products to you! There are people on here, to help you find the right stuff, too. You get the chance to do it without going through the "embarassment" of face to face conversations with strangers about your sex life! I was thoroughly embarassed when I first started "shopping" for toys, and gave personal information to the sales clerks, now you don't have to go through that! I can only wish we would have found out how much more fun sex can be, with toys, 12 years ago!