rglarson

My wife likes larger toys... We have the Big Boy, but she'd like something a little thicker. Maybe around 2.5" in diameter, or so... Length really isn't that important, but it shouldn't be shorter than 5", I guess... I'd really rather not spend more than $50 on this, but for a particularly good one, we could go up to $70 or so, including shipping. So, some criteria: 2.5" - 3" diameter $70 or under (under $50 preferred) It *must* vibrate She prefers ones that are less realistic (i.e. no veins, balls are iffy, etc.) She doesn't like the jelly texture (it collects cat fur and lint, and it has a weird scent), but rubber, silicone, cyberskin, etc. are good. As you may have noticed, this site doesn't exactly have the biggest selection of bigger toys, and at that size, it's difficult to find ones that fit all of her criteria (because they're all either $120, are made to look real, or don't vibrate). Any suggestions?

Everyone who's replied so far makes it seem like anal is something that they do every time. Maybe it's just my relationship, but my experience pretty different from most of yours. 1. We never talk about anal other than during sex, and only after we've been going at it for a while. If I bring it up at any other time, she's bothered by it, since she's convinced anal sex is something that only dirty sluts do. 2. We never use a condom during anal. 3. I myself really like anal, but she's a lot more capricious about it. Most of the time, she's not interested, and if she talks about it at all, it's about how much she hates it and how people who do it are sick, but if I ask at just the right time, she'll be up for it. And of course, once we do, she's guaranteed to have a much more violent orgasm than from regular sex. 4. It's always the desert for us. 5. I always cum in her ass, and when I do, it pushes her over the edge, so I know she can feel it, and I know she likes it. Yes, I know my girl needs to relax her views on anal, but she's so outspoken against it, only to completely flip-flop when she does it, it's like there's some sort of psychological issue there that keeps her from doing it unless the timing is just right. I've tried talking to her about it, but then she says I'm perverted and gets angry at me, and thinks I must secretly be gay because I like anal.

I really like anal. The problem is that my girlfriend doesn't. I've tried a few times to get her to use toys on me, but she's exceptionally timid, and doesn't really get involved. She says she doesn't want to hurt me, and I appreciate her concern, but when I try to reassure her, she gets self-conscious and gives up. If I try to show her, she stops participating altogether, and says that I'll do a better job. I've explained to her that the point isn't really what she does, so long as she does something, but she's so worried that she won't do anything. To make matters worse, because I enjoy anal play, and have for years, I'm pretty advanced, so every toy I have is bigger than anything sold on this site. She knows about these toys, but doesn't believe that I actually use them, and is completely afraid of trying to use them on me. Because she's so afraid of it, and half-denies it, it's starting to become this secret that she knows about but pretends she doesn't. I'd love to get her to fist me, or to use a strap-on (I've had my eye on the Feeldoe Stout - it's not sold here). I've sort of brought it up to her, but she's vaguely condescending and definitely too timid to try it, so I don't think it'll happen any time soon.