My wife and I used to enjoy anal occaissionally before the babies, now she doesn't want to. We tried one time after and I used plenty of oral, fingers, lube, toys to get her ready. I was gentle as I always am when we try to go "there". Now she says that since the baby, when the doctor did his cut (don't know how to spell it so I'm not goint to try) it hurts too much to try. Is there anything I can do to help ease the pain?...I really miss anal, whenever I go down on her I always please her there too with my tongue and occaissionally a finger or two and/or a small toy, but she won't allow me "in"!!!