Rochana

I was 24 and newly married. My then husband, whom I suspect may not be entirely straight, did not consumate the relationship for some time. It seemed fine at the time, but that was because I had nothing to compare it to. I didn't find out how wonderful sex could be until I was in a long-term relationship with a man I met when I was single again.

Being monogomous by nature - sexually and emotionally - a thjreesome doesn't seem like a possibility for me. But I do sometimes think about it nonetheless. I imagine I would share a glass of wine with a commited, attractive, interesting couple. Then I would curl up in front of a fire with the woman and play with each other: undress, perhaps give each other a massage, kiss, touch lightly ... perhaps while the man watched. I suppose I am curious what it would be like with a woman - never having gone through that phase in college - but my imagination does not take me very far... The line between fantasy (the mildly invisioned 3-some) and what I would actually do is hazy.