OMG are you asking me! I've used it and enjoyed it, though I can agree with those who say that isn't stiff enough (for lack of a better word). It's my first and only anal toy, so I don't have great experience. I expect if I was, this toy wouldn't do the trick. For little old me just playing around, it was fine. I guess though it would be good to work up to something, but, IMO, you should talk to someone on here that has more experience. Your username describes me. Have fun whatever you do!