jinx23

Thanks for the advice everyone. I have been trying different things out and trying to be more confident and it's working so far! I think my SO has caught onto the fact that I am encouraged and more enthusiastic when he lets me know he's enjoying it by making noise or saying something because he's been doing it more frequently (ha or maybe my technique has improved that much!) Also on a side note: I never realized how much my mind set was influencing what I attempted to do...I mean I had always just assumed that deepthroating was something that only a few people could do and it wouldn't be fun for me at all. After reading Mikaylas article (the advice was great!!) I decided to start trying. While I'm definitely not there yet I can go pretty far and my SO really seems to love it! Also the feeling of accomplishing that is soooo empowering! You have no idea how much I love this site and am loving the advice I'm getting here! Thanks so much everyone!!! J

Hi everyone, I have a question kind of related to sexual health that I'd love an opinion on. First off, let me say that although I'm a still a little un-adventerous in bed, I really love the sex I'm having with my SO (working on the adventurousness and I think I'm getting better lol). My SO has been away for about a month or so and has only just come back last week. I've found during the last week that I am not getting wet at all! It's making things a bit awkard in bed. I think my SO thinks I'm not interested! This happened a little with my previous SO (there have only been the two) but it was toward the end of the relationship so I just thought it was a temporary thing. Just to clarify, my previous relationship didn't break-up so much as my SO had to go away with the army and we decided to end things a few months after he left so I don't think it was due to relationship problems. I have never had trouble getting wet for my current SO before now and I am super-excited when we have sex and I love every bit of it, it's just no lubrication (natural that is lol). I am wondering if anyone has experiencesd this before and if so could it be a medical issue like low hormones or something? Also if anyone has any advice how to reassure my SO that he still turns me on and the problem is not with him that would be appreciated too! Thanks so much everyone! J

Hello everyone, First let me say sorry in advance if this post is slightly unorganized. I find it a little hard to organize and write down my feelings/houghts/questions about sex possibly because it is tied up with other issues. I have a question about giving blowjobs. I am not uncomfortable giving my guy a blowjob at all but I will say that I am very unadventerous. I think it probably has something to do with how I was introduced to the whole thing. The first couple of guys I did this to didn't care about me at all. They just wanted pleasure and the whole act was pretty forceful and humiliating with constant remarks about how I wasn't doing it properly. This was when I was younger and willing to put up with that kind of crap if I thought a guy liked me. I am very much past putting up with that although some hang ups have followed me through. For example, I've read in the tips section that guys like it if you look up at them while your mouthing or sucking thier penis but I always feel like I look very ridiculous doing this. THe same applies to most actions outside of just the basic 'bob and suck' routine. I am dating a fairly new wonderful guy who I really want to pleasure so I am trying to get over these hang-ups. Now after all of this rambling my question is...are there times when guys find something a women does when she's giving a blow job ridiculous? Does it matter? Or do they just like the fact that thier women is wanting to try new things? Are there any women (or men) out there in a similiar situation? Can you give any suggestions about how I can get over these hang ups? Thanks in advance for the advice and hope everyone's having a great weekend!

Hi Tamirul, It really sucks that your boyfriend is so far away. My boyfriend is gone to Iceland for the summer so I know how you feel a little. I am not sure if your boyfriend has frequent access to email but one thing I found that was fun was to send short video clips to my boyfriend (no, not sexy ones like some of you are thinking although that would be fun except others might see them). It's just nice to send him a little clip of myself saying hi and telling him that I miss him and just chatting for a minute of two. Also since I've started reading posts on this forum I've been collecting ideas to try out when he gets home! Hopefully I'll be able to try them out when he gets home without feeling like a cheezy porn actress Cheers, Jinx23

Me and a couple of girlfriends were out clubbing in Prague, Czech Republic and two guys started talking to us. They didn't speak much English and we didn't speak much Czech so the conversation was pretty funny. The guys were obvously very drunk and trying to pick up. One guy put his arm around my friend and pulled her close and said "your voice is like a saw". I nearly died laughing. I guess he meant to day your voice is like a song but the pronounciation messed him up a bit. We left pretty soon after that because the guys got progressivly more sleazy. Although it still remains one of our most laughed-over memories of our trip!

I'd love to be more able to talk about sex and expirament more with my boyfriend. He's pretty open with what he likes and asking what I want but it often makes me feel awkward and I'm fairly hesitant to initiate things. I am working on it (already I'm less 'shy' than in past relationships) but I still feel awkward. I had some bad experiences with past relationships that tore my self confidence to shreds so I guess it will just take time...and the encouragement of my bf. Also, to be more flexible lol.

Along with all the other advice you've been given, another thing to keep in mind is the length of time between intercourse. Something similiar happened to me when I started having sex for the first time. Sex the first time can hurt, especially if you're petite or your partners well endowed or even if you're just nervous. If there is some time between periods of sex your vagina, which was stretched during the initial sex and where the hymen was probably brokem, can heal and then you might feel pain the next time you have sex. Don't worry! Once you get more accustomed to sex you're body will adjust. Also depending on the makeup of your body your boyfriends penis might be hitting the end of your cervex or he might just be a little too forceful. Some women like when this happens and some don't. It's a personal preference but if it is hurting you don't be afraid to stop and change the pace. Maybe back up and try some more foreplay before continuing or perhaps you can both use your hands to get each other off. Most of all have fun! Don't worry that sex will always be uncomfortable! It won't! However if you do continue to be in pain consult your OBGYN. Hope this helps! Cheers Jinx23