My bf and I have been together for about 1½ years. We talk about everything and joke and touch each other a lot. When we got together we used to have sex even multiple times a day but quite soon he admitted he`s doing it so often just to please me. Nowadays he would maybe feel like it once a week while I would do it every day. I feel like I have to earn it by being nice and quiet and not initiating it and that makes me feel bad. I`ve cried because of this countless times. (In my former relationship as well. Where are all the horny men when you need them? ) I`ve asked him what would turn him on but he just says there had to be some sort of subtle chemistry, so to speak, between us. I can`t make it happen like when we first met because we can`t meat again for the first time (even if we separated for a while, we would still know too much about each other). Seeing me naked doesn`t turn him on, I can run around the house with nothing on as much as I want. I`ve asked what kind of lingerie he likes but he said "it doesn`t matter as long as it`s ladies underwear". (I`m not sure if he just tries to make me feel better but he`s also said that any woman in the world could be in my place and he still wouldn`t be any more interested.) Even though this is driving me crazy I don`t want to leave him. He says he cares about me and usually hugs me when I cry (I do it often for various reasons). Some years ago I left my first bf because of another man who seemed to be more exciting and interested in sex. That another guy turned out to be a total jerk, however, but needless to say, I couldn`t undo anything and soon after we got together again (me and my first bf), he broke up finally. After that he has had even more mental problems than he used to have and I feel bad for him. Why oh why didn`t I see who really loved me and who didn`t? (No need to answer that, I know it was because of me being young and desperate for excitement and something new and forbidden.) I don`t want to do that mistake again and that`s why I`m here asking for help. And oh, thank you for your answers in advance