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I will, thanks Rob. I actually have some very exciting news.. =)

I will. I might even post about it on my blog here; I just started it today =)

Ok so yea.. your letter made me cry Aiden. I admire you not only for your eloquence but also for your braveness. Since this thread is a little older, I'm hoping things have changed and he does appreciate your words for what they were meant to be now - pure love and gratefulness. I think you've inspired me and I think I will sit down in a quite moment and try to put my feelings into written words as well.. even if it's just for the sake of clearing my head and getting it all out. Aiden you're my hero, I mean it. I hope your husband can see what an amazing jewel he has in you.

I just returned to this message board after, what, two years.. and I made my first post in a thread about where people are on their sexual journey in life. I've decided to use my post there as my first blog entry also, because it describes pretty well where I am and what I want. So here goes: When it comes to my husband's and my journey together, I'd say we're right at the beginning, at least when it comes to positive change. We've been married for only 3.5 years, yet our sex life is dead. It hasn't just slowed down or gotten a little more tame, no, it's non-existent. Our daughter is now 2 years old and ever since she was born, things haven't been the same. Of course, this is all a combination of many factors but I think the biggest issue is how my self-image has changed. I had gained a lot of weight during pregnancy and I still struggle with the obligatory 10lbs that just won't go away and which just really keep me from feeling 'myself' again. I still feel like this is not my body. When my husband and I met 4 years ago, I was at a slammin' 120lbs, I felt great, sexy, toned, lean and just with a healthy amount of confidence - now, I slouch, I'm tired, I feel ugly and about as un-sexy as one can feel. We've started therapy because things had gotten so bad that both him and I preferred the company of other people online over the company of our spouse. Our therapist is a trip, she's absolutely amazing and she has recommended certain things to us, among them videos, which we have yet to watch. He's gotten into a book called 'She comes first' (I believe) and he's all over it. I think it's cute how much he's gotten into it and how much fun he has listening (audio book) to it. What am I doing? Well.. I've come back to this message board for once, because I remember from when I first signed up here a long time ago, that there are some pretty amazing people on here with lots of patience and lots of good advice.. so I'm going to try to spend time on here and get inspired again. What else? I'm loosing weight. I'm trying anyways. Still a good 15lbs to go. Fingers crossed. So yea.. our journey is just beginning. Wish me luck. ..

When it comes to my husband's and my journey together, I'd say we're right at the beginning, at least when it comes to positive change. We've been married for only 3.5 years, yet our sex life is dead. It hasn't just slowed down or gotten a little more tame, no, it's non-existent. Our daughter is now 2 years old and ever since she was born, things haven't been the same. Of course, this is all a combination of many factors but I think the biggest issue is how my self-image has changed. I had gained a lot of weight during pregnancy and I still struggle with the obligatory 10lbs that just won't go away and which just really keep me from feeling 'myself' again. I still feel like this is not my body. When my husband and I met 4 years ago, I was at a slammin' 120lbs, I felt great, sexy, toned, lean and just with a healthy amount of confidence - now, I slouch, I'm tired, I feel ugly and about as un-sexy as one can feel. We've started therapy because things had gotten so bad that both him and I preferred the company of other people online over the company of our spouse. Our therapist is a trip, she's absolutely amazing and she has recommended certain things to us, among them videos, which we have yet to watch. He's gotten into a book called 'She comes first' (I believe) and he's all over it. I think it's cute how much he's gotten into it and how much fun he has listening (audio book) to it. What am I doing? Well.. I've come back to this message board for once, because I remember from when I first signed up here a long time ago, that there are some pretty amazing people on here with lots of patience and lots of good advice.. so I'm going to try to spend time on here and get inspired again. What else? I'm loosing weight. I'm trying anyways. Still a good 15lbs to go. Fingers crossed. So yea.. our journey is just beginning. Wish me luck.

Ok, I'll try that. Thanks!

Hey guys, I haven't introduced myself just yet - I promise to do that very soon though. I just bought a remote wireless butterfly at the too timid store ($80.-) and I'm a little disappointed. Now, I'd like to know if I'm missing something or if the one I got is just faulty or what.. forgive me, this is my first butterfly. Is it possible that there is no way to close the battery compartment? I mean.. the butterfly itself is hollow and you sorta just slide the battery thingie in there.. thing is, it comes back out almost immediately since the batteries are a little too big for the hollow body. Now, that's just holding the butterfly in my hand - I don't even want to know what would happen would I WEAR it, if you know what I mean.. I don't really like the idea of rubbing against batteries, you know? Soo.. does anybody else own this particular toy and maybe has some tipps for me? I love the idea of a wireless toy but would not use it if this is how it's supposed to be. Thank you..

Hey.. I just came across an article which I thought might be interesting for you or anybody else with the same 'problem': Sex While Asleep Not Just Dreamed Up FRIDAY, June 1 (HealthDay News) -- After uncovering the secret lives of people who walk, eat and become aggressive while asleep, scientists are now turning to another bedtime phenomenon: "sleepsex." Reports of sexual behavior while asleep have become so common that experts on Friday released a classification system that allows doctors to better document these cases. People who engage in sleepsex "don't remember what they do, and it's their bed partners who tell them. They're mortified, and the partner complains they're being assaulted or molested," said Dr. Carlos Schenck, a sleep researcher who was lead author on the report. "Now they'll realize this is a sleep-related disorder." Since the 1990s, researchers have been exploring the range of "parasomnia" behaviors in which people do things other than sleep while sleeping. Sleepwalking, of course, is nothing new -- ask Lady Macbeth -- but researchers are discovering that people eat while asleep, engage in violence, and even intensely scratch themselves. "Anything that people do during the daytime, we're realizing they can do during sleep, all the instinctual or basic behaviors," Schenck, an associate professor of psychiatry at the University of Minnesota Medical School, said. Schenck and colleagues explored existing reports of sexual behavior during sleep and created the classification system. Their work appears in the June issue of the journal Sleep. The researchers looked at 31 cases of sleep-related sexual behavior. They found that 80 percent involved men. Only males engaged in sleep sexual intercourse (42 percent of cases) while females were more likely to engage in "sexual vocalizations." People of both genders reported incidents of sleep masturbation. In one case, they reported, "a 28-year-old woman had nightly sexual moaning and sexual fondling during sleep for 16 years that would appear within 20 minutes of falling asleep and disturb the sleep of her husband and children." In another case, a 26-year-old woman would initiate foreplay with her bed partner during sleep and then awaken and accuse him of forcing sex upon her. None of the patients reported remembering the incidents. Patients who have sex while asleep typically do not have any form of mental disorders, Schenck said. "Basically, an alarm rings in their nervous system when it shouldn't ring, and they have this partial awakening. It's a twilight state," he said. Unfortunately for the patients, "they have suspended judgment," Schenck said. "They can't monitor themselves, and they're are risk for harming themselves or someone else." In many cases, he added, bed partners reported unwanted sexual advances by a sleeping person, but sometime said they didn't mind the extra attention. The sedative clonazepam (Klonopin) is a frequent treatment for unwanted behaviors during sleep and it works in 90 percent of parasomnia cases, according to the new report. It's not clear how common sleepsex is. Dr. Robert Vorona, a sleep researcher and associate professor of internal medicine at Eastern Virginia Medical School, suspects that the true number of cases is not on the rise. "However, until sleep specialists actively question our patients about these delicate issues, we will not really know just how common or uncommon these behaviors might be, or whether these activities might be occurring more frequently," he said. As for the future, he said sleep experts -- already called as experts in court cases on violence reportedly taking place during sleep -- may find themselves testifying even more often. "Sleep clinicians should not be surprised to find themselves increasingly being asked to testify in controversial cases involving sexual activity during sleep," he said. More information To learn more about sleep disorders try the National Library of Medicine. Source