Hi. Although I joined the forum a while back, for no good reason I never introduced myself, so here goes. I've been married to my beautiful and sensitive wife for thirty years now. While for the first five years we had frequent, passionate but relatively vanilla sex, we kind of fell into the doldrums for a while. In fact, there was one period when we didn't do anything for about a year. About four years ago, I decided to try to jump start our libidos by introducing some toys, erotica, and some pornos. The wife was willing to try some new approaches to our renewed sex life, but the most dramatic news was my confession to having had a same sex episode during my youth and would often masturbate to the memory. To her credit, although she was surprised ( to say the least) to learn that her macho husband had played a short season on the other team, she accepted and even embraced the revelation. We are still exploring. Any thoughts?