Ahh see that is the exact reason it does bother me as I so want to see him enjoying himself, just can't because I am enjoying myself too much. I guess I will just have to live with it or get a video camera and tape him so I can see him. Thanks for letting me know I am not the only one and thank you for the welcome. I have been reading for awhile and love the advice and information I have gotten from this site. I have decided this year we are working to improve our sex life and it has definitely been fun thanks to some advice from this site.