FutureMrsET

I agree with everyone here if you are unsure wait. I didn't and I regret it. Now I have other issues to deal with my my b/f who BTW is my fiancee. He is very patient and I got lucky getting him after my last b/f who left me after two weeks of our first sexual experience. I was a virgin with my b/f prior to my fiancee. And to say that it was a big mistake is an understatement. He used pressure to get me to do it by the quote "don't be all pathological about it". If you are unsure trust me it is worth waiting. If I knew my fiancee was right around the corner I would have waited, he is a wonderful man and very considerate of me.

Thanks for the advice. "Wet original" is what he is thinking of using but I can't find it anywhere. The initial insertion is what I am afraid of mostly. That was when I was tore with my ex b/f. Also when he made me sit upright and I wasn't ready for it. Also all I can think about is the amount of blood that was there when I was tore up so badly. It was pretty intensive bleeding. Like I said my b/f says we need to go slow. Although I wouldn't mind oral. Couldn't hurt.

Thanks for your posts you have given me some hope. My b/f says that I am very dry inside but I get wet on the outside. We think it might be because I had a hysterectomy over 20 years ago and haven't been on estrogen in 10 years. He also says that I tense up too much and that is causing some of the pain. He says that maybe I might want to look into using some Ben-wa balls to help me relax. But I've seen those and they look very itimidating. So maybe not . Anyway, I'm beginning to wonder if I will ever learn to relax. My first sexual experience was horrible and maybe that might be a reason why I tense up. I wound up being pretty badly torn up and bled for 10 days straight. My b/f understands that right now sex is scary for me at times so he is really emphasizing that we need to go slowly for right now.

To be honest my first time was horrible. He tore me because he wanted to go too fast I was bleeding horribly for a long time. Now my fiancee is having to deal with my fear of sex. We are taking it slow and talking a lot about what I am comfortable with and such which is a good thing. He has some sex toys that he wants me to try out. I looked at one of them on this site and they look scary so he said it's alright we won't use those toys. Ben-wa balls, since I was tore so badly and the pain was horrible (felt like I was being torn from the inside) the thought of this toy scares me to death. But communication is the key. First time with me on top was not a good idea because that was how I was tore up. Is there another position that would be good for the both of us.