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LOL fair enough. I didn't include that did I? Oops.. Sorry. Um, Im all in to the foreplay. Easy, gentle, harder, kissing, petting, touching, all that. And he knows that which, he has no problems doing for me, just he doesn't really get into it back. Very, very weird in my book, but everyone is different right? He is more sensitive than what I am used to but, this also not something bad in my favor. I never knew there were guys out there who could cum and keep going. This, is awesome But, he doesn't mind foreplay with me and doing whatever I need. Hes just not really into it. And as for the ED.. I am not really sure. Could explain why the need for direct stimulation. But, IDK?? Ok... Lets try and figure this out before I fall apart Thanks guys!

Ok, I am need of some help. I was married for 3 years, and now, I am divorced and met a wonderful man who is absolutely wonderful. Not only to me, but my children. Everything is going great... Except... In the bedroom. Im 25 yrs. old. (young, I know). He is 26. We are both healthy, and have a healthy sex drive. My issue is, that everything I have learned in my 10 years of sexual encounters does not really apply here. I have never been with a guy like him. He doesnt operate like the others have. Foreplay for instance, is almost non-existant. He doesnt get turned on by kissing, or petting, or touching.. or even dirty talk.. Says it doesnt do anything for him. He made a comment the other night about "it would be nice to have someone else iniate things." I obviously took this as a hint, and let it be known, that I didnt know how. As embarrased as I was I knew he had to show me SOMETHING. So he preceded to tell me that giving a blow job to start is the go-getter. Which is fine, only problem..(heres the next issue I have) I have never given a blow job to a guy that was "fully intact" (circumcized). So I got a whole new lesson in giving blow jobs. Meanless to say, and hour later, I finally passed the class. But I am still confused. What do you do for a guy who really isnt into the usually fondling and foreplay? And, how do you exactly handle and "intact penis".. Sorry this is so long, but I wanted to make sure I included everything to give a better description. Thanks guys! I love this site, and all the help I've gotten in the past. Please help. I really like this guy and I can see us being together for quite sometime, I wanna make it COMPLETLY enjoyable to its fullest.

Hello again Too Timid!!! 1st I wanna say that you guys are alot of help!!! We are doing the "training" for my hubby and his contol issues, they are helping. Slow but in progress. Thanks alot! I hope someone knows something about this We are still having problems getting prego. I am keeping a diary of sex days/nights, ovulation days and end of cycle days and all that stuff. Now for the question. I dont know if this is normal or not but is it normal for some of the cum of come out of me afterwards? It seems that everytime we do, it all comes back out. I know I have posted before about "tightness" issues, but could this be possible or is there other issues? We really cant afford a fertility specialist so we are trying everything we know how to all the way to old wives tales... Someome, anyone... Please help. I have 2 other children. But what other problems could there be?

oops! I just realized I put this in the wrong place!! Sorry!!! I will move it!

Hello again Too Timid!!! 1st I wanna say that you guys are alot of help!!! We are doing the "training" for my hubby and his contol issues, they are helping. Slow but in progress. Thanks alot! I hope someone knows something about this We are still having problems getting prego. I am keeping a diary of sex days/nights, ovulation days and end of cycle days and all that stuff. Now for the question. I dont know if this is normal or not but is it normal for some of the cum of come out of me afterwards? It seems that everytime we do, it all comes back out. I know I have posted before about "tightness" issues, but could this be possible or is there other issues? We really cant afford a fertility specialist so we are trying everything we know how to all the way to old wives tales... Someome, anyone... Please help. I have 2 other children. But what other problems could there be?

ok, when we tried the ring, he went soft with it on and it didnt last but MAYBE 2 or 3 minutes. We are convinced that either something is wrong with me b/c for some reason, I dont know why... But I am really tight. Like one finger almost hurts. And every person that I have had sex with tells me that if they didnt know any better they would swear I was a virgin, but I I have kids so they know Im not. I dont know why? I think thats just the way I am. Now my husband on the other hand, he says that he has never had the problem of cumming too early like this. Or ever had the problem of not being able to stay hard. So thats when I had the idea fo getting cock ring. I dont know if maybe I am using the wrong kind or what? Oh, and we are working on the "training" for him to try not to cum too early, and its going well. I give him kudos. But untill we get it right. I need some serious help. He really wants to try and make the ring work but its just not. Someone please help. Thanks Too Timid!!!

OMG!!! I can so relate Tyger!!! I also met my husband in a bar. A country bar at that. Let me go back a year ago..... I went to Florida, and my sons dad flew to Tampa, just to take and drive me home in my own car. Well, when we got back to Tusa, we went to the bar. I told my sons dad that the best thing to top this whole thing off was a brand new shiny diamond ring. He looked at me jokingly and said "shit, dream on!" This really hurt my feelings considering everything he had just done for me in the past 72 hours. Well, about that time a guy walked up, looked at me, and handed me a dollar folded into a ring and asked me right in front of my sons dad "If I give you a ring, will you marry me?". Keep in mind, I had no clue who this guy was, never seen him ever in my life, and hes asking me to marry him,,,, IN FRONT OF MY KIDS DAD!!!! My sons dad got a lil upset said a few words and that was it. Flash forward 6 months. I had just broke up with my boyfriend, which was not my sons dad, and I was back at the same bar. I am standing there with my friends and some strange guy is staring at me. I wave thinking that maybe he would go away. The next thing I know, my friend walks up to me with this guy and tells me "Dionne, this is Brad. Brad this is Dionne. There! You 2 are reintroduced, see you later. Bye!" I asked him who he was and he reminded me. I remembered. We spent a couple of months together and we were lying in bed ( we hadnt even had sex yet!!!!) and I look at him and say "that would be funnie, if we really did get married" he said "yea it would.... Ya want to?" I asked him if he really loved me and he said "since the day we met Ive always went back to the bar looking for you." A couple of days later, we got my ring, a 2.5 carat diamond antique ring and we set a date of April 13, 2007. Today is December 3rd, 2007 and we are happily married. Honestly the cutest couple a country bar in Tulsa ever made!

I have used cock rings before and loved them but my question is... Do they help keep the cock hard? I for one enjoy the lil stretchy silcone ring that I have. Its fun, feels good and before I got married (i just bought a new one a couple of days ago) it helped keep the condom on. ( it always came off during sex. I think it was bc I was too tight, and the dick went soft before we pulled out..I could be wrong?) We (me and my husband) bought one thinking it was going to help keep him hard, but we havent used it yet. We are waiting for my fertile days We want a baby:) YAY!! But before those days get here, I wanted to read up on some things but didnt find much. Maybe I wasnt looking in the right places? Can someone please give me some advice and help to the science and purpose of cock rings other than the pleasure? I know they feel good and all but does it help keep it hard and keep my husband from cumming too early? Thanks alot guys!!! Dionne

My husband knows Im on here. He laughs at me. But then again, I would love to be a sex therapist. When he has a question that (not very often) I cant answer, he tells me to check here. LOL. I think alot of it depends on peoples relationships on wether to tell or not to. But I think this place is great! A friend turned me on to it when I told her that I was ready to buy my 1st toy. But what was sad, I was 22 and she was 18 and told me about it! Thanks to everyone who created this!!

Hello! Welcome to something some women only wish they could have. I totally feel for you 100%! The guy I was with had to be a good 10 inches in length and at least 3 inches in girth. It was almost, well, it WAS too much for me to handle. Although sex with him was wonderful, it was entirely too big for me. I did go to my Gyno, and I talked to her. She took a look, and although I am completly normal, I am rather small. She told me that if it wasnt for the fact you could tell that I wasnt a virgin and my paper work said I had 2 children, you can defintly feel it. Which in turn makes my husband a VERY happy camper. I was with this guy for about 4 months. I did adjust, my body that is, but it was always a rather tight fit. Try some extra lube to help it glide in a little easier, or maybe have him try some Altoids on you. I think you might find these a little helpful. Or then again, you can actually help train your body, as well, as his dick, to take you just right. Try a little bit at a time, if this guy honestly respects you, he will comply with wanting to help you enjoy the goods and fun Im not saying the head and the head only, just a little bit at a time untill you can get it in with no problem. As with the comical value of doggy style. Thats great! Howard is totally right when it comes to adult playtime is supposed to be fun. Have fun and play around with the whole thing. I think you will find that the more you play and experiment the more fun you have and the more enjoyable it will be. When you are on top to straddle him slide down only as much as you think need be. I am also the wife of a heavy guy. I love bigger guys. They are like giant teddy bears who love to cuddle and all that stuff. Before too long you will be able to enjoy it all the way with no problems! And dont forget to laugh. Laughter is kinda the cure for everything Enjoy your mans "gift" and be sure to have fun with it. Just a little bit at a time

Ok, I know this is a senstive subject but I am at my witts end! We got the toy subject covered and I LOVE the Femella!!! BUT now we are having the problem from day one. We didnt have sex untill after we were engaged. But now, I have been told numerous times that I have been really "tight" like a virgin... (as the Madonna song comes to mind) But anywho.... When we do have sex it feels great for about..... 5 minutes... if that.... hes not stressed, no high BP, and other than that hes realtively healthy.... I LOVE sex and everything he does but it leads to alot of frustration and a big mess when he uses his fingers to finish me off. Can someone please help me to what we can do to help him prolong this... OH! and by the way... this is even more of a sensitive subject... I like smaller.... dicks. i always have.. the bigger ones hurt too much. Can him being.... "short" have anything to do with us not being able to get pregnant??? Dionne

Thanks Howard! I read him what you said and he actually warmed up to the idea kinda quickly! We played with it the other night and he seemed to like it. He says watching me play with it and myself made him feel like excited b/c I was enjoying myself. HE even likes the vibrations himself on his balls! It was so much fun!! Thanks so much for the help, and reply!!!

Ok, I know this another post, But someone out there has got to have some kind of help for me and my husband. First off I love my husband very much and everything he can and cant do. But I am at my witts end with the fingers. Hes SO good with them and I get off everytime. But when we have "normal" sex, he cant make it past a minute or so. So I kinda loose out on the penile orgasm. Can someone please help me figure something out to where he can last longer? We have tried stopping, and delaying everything but for me to climax it has to constant. Someone please give me some ideas! I am sending out a S.O.S. ( Save Our Sex) Dionne

So I was incredibly excited when I bought my very 1st toy! "La Femmela" So far its cool. But my husband thinks its his replacement. I really want to play with it with him too, not just by myself, nothing is better than the real thing to me but its not going to to hurt to have some fun. Can someone please tell me and my husband thats ok to have toys and that we BOTH can play with it. Some helpful tips on playing together would be gret too!! Thanks! Dionne