Hi, My wife and I have been married for 14 years now, but over the last couple of years I've developed post-viral fatigue, which has unfortunately started to affect my penis. I really struggle to get an erection, and if I do, it often doesn't last. However, I'm still just as randy - maybe even more so as I want some comfort! The problem is that not only is my cock affected, but it's also had an impact on my wife - she's had to take on a lot of stuff I used to handle, like the bills and parental stuff, and I just can't help out as I used to. She's really stressed, and as a result hasn't had an orgasm for ages, even if I do get a hard-on. She used to want sex a lot, but as a result of her stress combined with a knowledge that I probably can't get it up, she mostly brushes me off. I know some really good sex would really help us both... But she's resistant to anything out of the ordinary. Dildo's or vibrators are out - she even struggles with finger play and oral (although to be honest I would rather not use toys either - I want to be the thing she puts in there!). Also the idea of watching porn together would result in major strife - as far as she's concerned it's immoral in many ways. As far as some porn goes, I probably agree, but I don't think it's all abuse... Don't get me wrong - she is adventurous and sexy, but her boundaries are different from mine, and in the circumstances I really want to try and get her to expand them. It wasn't a problem before, and we used to have great sex, orgasming together pretty much every time, and feeling so amazingly close. Her parents are of the 'don't talk about it because it's dirty, but if you're married the missionary position is just about OK' school, and she's already gone a long way from that. I'm trying to gently win her over to the idea that there's more to sex than penetration, but I'm not succeeding. I've tried to talk to her about it, but she just says that she finds the feelings 'too much' if I try to stimulate her with my fingers or tongue. Any ideas?