Subtleinquiry

Thank you Howard.. now you are making me wonder if I have ever had an orgasm. If I feel that i'm loosing complete control, that my muscles tensed and I get goosebumps all over, is that an orgasm? I'm learning to be more relaxed and enjoy..I would love to learn to have an orgasm...or maybe I have had them..I love the feeling when I cum...but is that it? The reason I ask is because my SO told me that he just didn't cum he had an orgasm.. and I didn't know there was a difference...I loved to see his face...so amazing .. I will go and read..thanks for any more insight... Subtle

Licker, that is true and good advise. I actually am learning to relax more and enjoy the moment...It is so amazing to have sex and give and receive...and love..pretty exciting. I have followed the advices and I'm doing much better...enjoying more. I have a question, what is the difference between orgasm and coming? I always thought it was the same...could you enlighten me? Thank you, Subtle..

Thank you all.. I will let go...it is so exciting to have someone that gets turn on by all of me.. and we love phone sex... I never thought oral sex could be so good..I love feeling him inside of me..I just have to enjoy it and leave my mind open...I will keep you posted...and yes Howard i will play more with toys...and see how it goes.. I'm learning...but I love this age..the possibilities and the potential is great... sublte

So I wanted to tell you that I had a good experience, but i'm still not letting go completely...I think it is mental...I love the sensation before coming, so i like to keep it going..but i would also love to cum....sigh...I don't know...Unfortunately we are not able to practice to often 'cause we live in different cities...but any advise is welcome...how to let the mind go...we have a unique connection, I have never had with anybody...it is just that this is the first time I have a SO that cares about my needs and everything in bed...what a change..I'm always giving, not receiving... Any thoughts? subtle...

Licker, I have a question, was it mentally hard to concentrate in the deed? for your girlfriend, did the other girl have to be good looking? for you? I associate sex so much with mental state that I would like to learn how do you control this..I have a great imagination, and I might be able to cyber in a threesome (never done it, but I can try)...but in person...how do you let go? Subtlely curious..

Hi..I'm new to the site, but very excited to try these tips. I wanted to share another thing that works for me..and my SO loved....when I was having him in my mouth and touching him, I stopped and drank a little bit of cold water and then put him right back in my mouth and/or lick him from the balls up...he loved the sensation....of his warmth and then the cold...I don't know if this might help..but you can try it... Subtle

Thank you. He has asked me for our next time to go slow and learn each other.. I will go for it. Thanks for the advise... Subtle..

Howard, thank very much..i will experiment and let go...I always thought that my vag..was too big or I am doing something wrong...but I have hope with my new partner that it is position, relaxation and of course..having fun.... Thank you much for the advise and I'll let you know how it works... Sublte

Hi, one question my new man and I are the same height. I love to make love when the man is behind me, but I'm a tall girl and, although we have not practice much yet, it seemed to be a problem...my long legs...any suggestion on how could we position ourselves...?

Hi...I like sex, I have a very good imagination, but I just finished a long term relationship where my expartner had no desire to be creative. Now I met a new guy who is sensual and sexual..and drives me wild...but I have a problem.. I'm afraid of letting go...aghhh. I can come easy if I'm touching myself..but it's not easy for me with a partner. So we had sex for the first time this week and it was amazing, the intimacy, the laughs..and he went down on me..I was so nervous...and he loved doing it...finally I let go after a long while and come..but I want to be more free to come.. I don't know.. it feels like I have to be in control.. I gave him oral and he loved it, which I really enjoy. I will try the tips I'm learning here. Any advise how to let go..? how to guide him when he is giving me oral sex? Thank you in advance... subtleinquiry