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Thank you all for your responses. You have been very helpful. I am reading all of the information I can find on this site. Thanks again for your continued help.

My husband is actually very good at foreplay. He will give me oral anytime I want, but that is another thing that is odd. I don't ever have an orgasm if he uses his mouth...only his fingers. We usually play around before hand and I find it very enjoyable. I get very turned on by the foreplay, but when it comes to the physical act of intercourse its like I just stop. I have had an orgasm while we are having regular sex, but it is a very rare occasion. Very rare. I am on top most of the time. It is how we both prefer it. It is the only way that I have ever gotten an orgasm is in the position. But like I said it is very rare. We have tried a wide variety of toys and stimulants but it always is the same thing. I boil over during the foreplay but completely freeze for the rest. I am just so frustrated. I am able to bring myself to orgasm very easily. This is why it is so puzzling to me as to why I can't when I have sex with my husband. He has tried stimulating me during sex with his hands, but it is almost an annoyance. I am so confused. I am so worried about this now because lately he has started pulling away. We usually have sex every night or at least everyother. He hasn't touched me in 3 days....very odd. I don't want him to get frustrated and I think it is finally getting to him. He made a comment yesterday that made me think so. I have looked up pill after pill, but I have no idea if they work or what. I have bought several of the products on here and they work for the foreplay, but nothing else. I am scared of losing his interest. I will look up the sexual education stuff on here and see if I can find some more info. Thanks for your imput.

I guess I was using bed as a generalization. It happens anytime we have sex no matter where we are.

My husband and I have been married for almost 8 years. My husband is a very sexual person..a border line nympho actually. I am always willing to have sex with my husband and I am turned on by him very easily. The problem is that as soon as we get into bed, my entire body shuts down. All feeling is gone. I try my best to get back into it, but no luck. I am only able to orgasm when he uses finger stimulation. My husband has always been very understanding, but I know that it really bothers him. It has to be very demeaning to him. I am also very frustrated by this. I am a very sexual person. I enjoy porn, steamy romance novels, and other things. I just don't understand why I shut down at the most important time. I am very open to any suggestion that could help us. I am tired of not being able to enjoy my husband like I want to. I WANT to enjoy the physical side of our relationship as much as I enjoy the rest of it. Let me add that this has always been a problem. It is not a recent development or the resault of anything. I have never been abused sexually or anything like that. I had a wonderful childhood, which makes this all the more confusing to me. Please help me.