Haruko

I've done a few things wrong in relationships, however it was often a combination of both mine and his actions that made things go wrong at all. The one main mistake I've made in a relationship in the past is, after a horrible break up (actually, two horrible break ups), getting back together with the guy after - I realize now that this was a serious mistake as it ended in disaster. Actually, I did this with two different guys and it took me that long to realize my mistake >___>. I know there are more mistakes for me to make in future, and I'm NOT looking forward to that... But at least I'll learn new things...

^ After your initial post, I actually did read those articles (specifically the multiple orgasm one). Your explanation of all the biology behind it helps a lot, and I'll try and 'train' myself to get through to a second one. Thank you both for your posts, they've helped a lot - hopefully I can put them into practice though.

I guess my post wasn't quite clear, and I appreciate your first few paragraphs, but I must say (and I really don't want to offend you, I understand it's a fast assumption to jump to and would probably do it myself) that it's sort of patronizing - I know that 'young' = 'clueless and desperate to get laid no matter what' applies to a lot of cases, but that's not how I see it, and I'm not your typical teenager. We go through the foreplay, but it ends with one orgasm - I can't seem to bear anymore (and I haven't yet had a G spot orgasm, not that I was expecting one so easily anyway). And it's foreplay where the problem lies, I find myself focusing on negatives and "what if?"s rather than what's happening. The blindfolding idea really interests me, and maybe indeed it might help my lack of openness/embarrassment/irrational paranoia/whatever it is that plagues me. I appreciate the help .

I wasn't quite sure what forum this would go into, but here goes. I feel like, throughout my entire sexual life, that I've lacked imagination when it comes to any sexual play. I'd say I'm quite a sexual person but when it comes down to it, I blank and can't think of anything inventive to do rather than the generic stuff! My boyfriend is constantly asking what I want when we're intimate with each other and I don't know - this may be because I think I'm quite submissive and I enjoy it when he does what HE wants, but then again I worry that my lack of input may bother him in the long run. I also think my worrying comes into this - I find my mind racing with the wrong things sometimes, like "What happens if I don't come? He'll be so disappointed and think there's something wrong with him" rather than just getting in the moment and enjoying things. I'm still young, and I feel it's a hump I have to overcome or else the pleasure might slowly begin to get sucked out of sex D:! ... I know that's not exactly a question, but are there any thoughts or suggestions to help me loosen up, or get my imagination flowing, or just give me any sort of clarity about myself? Thank you *blushes*.

Hello, well, as you can see I'm a new member. I've had this site bookmarked for a while and it's been a good read and very interesting - the layout is beautiful, it's nice to see a site about sex that looks so warm and inviting! The site's name is a good description of myself - too timid. I'm looking forward to talking with you fellow sex...ers? *Shuffles* Yeah, um, just saying 'hi' .